10 Things You Don’t Need For a New Baby

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It’s a myth that you have to be completely ready for the baby when they make their grand appearance. In fact, you might be quite surprised at just what you don’t need for a new baby!

Let’s face it. When we get those two pink lines (or find out we’re pregnant however we find out), the dreams start. We wonder who they’ll be like, what they’ll look like and how on earth we’re going to cherish every second of our pregnancy without wishing it away immediately so our little dumpling is in our arms STAT.

And we also start planning. If we’ve had others before, we take inventory in our heads of what we still have from older siblings, and what we may need. And, if this is our first? Well, we might feel like we need all.the.things so our sweet new addition has the best.

The truth is, though, there are many things we’ve culturally come to believe are must-haves before the new baby comes, and that’s simply not true. Following is the story of one mama who shares her beliefs about what you don’t need for a new baby, and we hope it eases the anxiety of some mamas who feel they must have an Insta-worthy nursery. The list Sarah compiles is one from her own experience; we’ve had mamas who share that some of her ‘don’t needs’ are must-haves in their books, and we want to reiterate that what you *need* or don’t *need* really depends on you.

We just want you to know that some of the traditional needs new mamas think they should have aren’t necessarily as important as they might think.

This post originally appeared on the natural birth blog, Mama Birth.

I remember registering for my first baby before he was born. I went to a giant baby warehouse store with a HUGE corporate list of things that I “needed” for this new little one and obediently registered.

And then he came.

The crib sat in the corner, the swing hung empty, and the tub wouldn’t fit in my shower.

Sometimes I think groups of childless men sit around shining wood tables and literally make stuff up that new babies “need” for survival just so that they can make money. Seems like a good idea, but for the first time mom, I think it just tends to stress us out when we should be enjoying a pretty awesome time in life.

So ladies, here are a few things that you don’t need for your new baby.

1) The wipe warmer– Possibly the silliest baby ‘necessity’ ever invented. I am pretty sure that cave man babies survived without the warmer. Oh wait … cave men are EXTINCT! Maybe we do need this! They can be nice for some people (some cloth diaper mamas keep their cloth wipes moist inside), but certainly not a need.

2) The layette – I have had kids for seven years and I still don’t know what this is. So … I am pretty sure it isn’t a necessity.

3) The crib – (This isn’t an anti-crib rant, so don’t get riled up.) It kind of makes me sad when a young new family with limited resources stresses unnecessarily over the need for a crib. I actually do think it is NICE to have a space for the baby to sleep, especially during nap-times, and at ANY time if you don’t co-sleep. But this doesn’t have to be an expensive crib. Some people use a Pack n Play (many are safe for sleeping in) which is smaller, cheaper, and easier to move if money and space are an issue. Some people just have the baby in their bed (free of all sheets and pillows, of course) with an attachable guard rail, a bassinet, a cradle or whatever is safe and fits.

4) That diaper Genie – Seriously? The diapers still smell, even in that thing. I am being for real. If I am doing disposables then I just throw them in the regular trash, but little baby poop doesn’t really stink. If I am doing cloth, then you DO need a diaper bin, but I just use a big plastic pail. You can get them for a few bucks or use an old one from Costco laundry soap.

5) Swings, bouncers, chairs, and what not – I can’t hold my baby all day long, so it is really helpful to have SOMETHING to put your baby in when you need to put them down. The thing is, you probably don’t need all of them. Plus, in my experience, all babies don’t like all of them. I had a baby that loved the swing and another that screamed bloody murder every time he came near it. These are not universally loved by all babies. Often, somebody whose baby is a little older is willing (dare I say desperate?) to give away theirs so that they can free up some space in their home. If you get something free, you just don’t feel as bad when you never use it.

6) Expensive breast pumps – A necessity for sure if you are going back to work and are planning on pumping when the baby is young. These are not, however, needed for every mom out there, even though they are promoted like every mom needs one. Often a hand pump will be plenty for a stay at home mom who doesn’t need to pump four times a day to keep up her supply. But even if you are going back to work — but not for a year or so — then you don’t necessarily need one.

7) The baby bath tub – We were in a tiny apartment when I had my first and the big tub wouldn’t even fit in my shower. Instead we showered with the baby. (Showering with a baby does work better if you have two people.) My newest baby gets bathed in the kitchen sink. YES, I clean it well before and after. It is just the right size for a little one. Baby tub = not necessary.

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8) Baby shoes – Babies actually don’t walk. This does come later, but until then, they don’t need a large array of shoes. I have a secret about this one too. Baby shoes don’t even stay on baby feet. They can’t walk but they can remove shoes by about three weeks. Don’t tell anybody that I was the one who let that one out of the bag.

9) A themed nursery – I feel like I am having an out of body experience when I walk into a big box baby store and see the walls lined with perfectly matched cribs, gliders (not rockers, those are capital “L” lame), wallpaper, sheets, lamps, rugs, and what not. Babies CAN see at birth, but only for about 12 inches. They will not care if the wallpaper matches the pillow sham. I have never even had a bedroom that nice. So, maybe I am just jealous…

10) Rounding off the 10 with a few I have never had or used – baby monitors (never had that big of a house), socks (they disappear with the shoes), pacifiers (shouldn’t even be introduced until 6 weeks), and Baby Einstein videos (don’t even get me started on baby TV!)

Lest you get offended, I know that some women might need some of these items or even just WANT some of them, in which case, GO NUTS and enjoy your baby shopping! I wasn’t trying to hurt your feelings. And I actually do know what a layette is. I was kidding.

Just remember that at the end of the day, what you think you need and what you actually find you do need and use are often very different things. As Sarah said, there’s NOTHING wrong with wanting some of those things. I ALWAYS used a wipes warmer for my little guy because those cold cloths (I cloth diapered) made his toosh so sad. Kidding…he would have been fine, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting your baby’s bum to be wiped with a warm cloth wipe.

And, I couldn’t live without my Medela Pump In Style. I had a hard time with nursing as my son didn’t necessarily love to eat, so I was around the clock feeding him, pumping to make sure he had supplement if ever needed, and making more of that liquid gold to keep for whatever came ahead.

Not to mention? I ONLY slept because we had his AngelCare Monitor with Video monitoring to put my mind to ease.

In our zest for wanting to make sure we have all we need and give our babies all we can, we sometimes may go overboard, we know. So, relax when shopping for a new baby. If we’re honest, all she *really* needs is you at first!


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68 thoughts on “10 Things You Don’t Need For a New Baby”

    1. Those saying that a stroller is not necessary…..yeah baby carrying is great, but try doing that all day when you have a bad back. Not possible.

  1. “Layette” is just a term for a set of newborn clothing. 😉 S’pose you don’t really *need* clothes for your baby though, you could just wrap them in blankets…

  2. I agree with all of this…aside from the baby monitor. I got a lot of use out of mine, not while my son was a newborn but once he was older and napping by himself I could go out and work in the garden and still know the second that he woke up and needed me. Necessity-no, but really was nice to have.

    1. I’m a nanny, and my employers actually got a video monitor. Since we’re in Manhattan (they have a 1-bed), we could easily hear when he was crying, but sometimes he was awake silently. It was really useful having the video when we were sleep training, because that way we could see if he was really asleep, or just quietly hanging out in his cot. I agree though, that a monitor isn’t always necessary.

  3. Hmm I don’t know on a lot of these I mean we use our monitor a lot not before DD turned 1 but since she moved to her own room we would never hear her in the middle of the night and our bedrooms are literally right next to each other. Also in reality showering with your baby isn’t that easy. We do it sometimes but they are slippery and a lot of people DO Not feel safe doing that. I don’t know I was thinking this list would be full of things like carseat toys, wipe warmers, 6 kinds of medicine dispensers, not things people routinely use. I mean sure the only thing you NEED is a couple diapers, and a couple clean outfits. But really most of those things get used fairly often.

  4. I don’t know. I agree with the concept that there are a lot of things being pushed on new mothers who either don’t know that they have other options or are into having everything but in my situation (single working mother) I have used, frequently, some of these. Actually, I think the fabricated “must haves” gets worse as they get older.
    I definitely needed my breast pump – and I was unaware that there were any cheap breast pumps – I’m was not about to hand pump or manually express one breast at a time at work three/four times a day. It was hard enough to get enough with the pump while massaging.
    I was grateful for the gift of a baby monitor – I thought I wouldn’t use it but I used it a lot the first year. And I lived in a one bedroom apartment.
    Same with the tub. MUCH easier than without until they were big enough to be in the tub on their own. I tried the whole shower together thing and I basically just got wet and cold and not washed. Now I will say that the foam pad for the sink or tub was sort of a stupid waste. Not to mention probably toxic. I succumbed and used for a few weeks. I could have just used towels.
    The crib is great. I co-slept for over a year and a half and still do a few times a week and they napped in the co-sleeper or pack ‘n play and then the crib. Now we are in an intermediate period between crib and bed and I refuse to get a toddler bed – that is a fabricated need. I’d love to have them in the bed but neither of us sleep well when we co-sleep full time now. That’s just us – and while I wish it were different it isn’t.
    And bouncy seats – yeah people tend to get all of them but the problem is that you don’t know what they will like till you try. I think that’s why a lot of them get passed around almost new. I really used mine – one set of hands and all that. I did wear them a lot but sometimes it just wasn’t practical and you just needed a safe place to put them.
    Oh and diaper pail – again, it’s all about location and housekeeping habits and preference. I know I could shove the diapers in the trash, but the trash can is all the way at the other end of the apartment. Just worked better for me to have one – and it does keep the smell down.
    Infant shoes, Baby Einstein(yeah, don’t get me started either 🙂 ), wipe warmer, themed nursery (wtf?) totally with you on these!!

    1. I didn’t get past your comment about breast pump. She does say that if you need to pump while working full time, you may need an expensive one.

    2. Totally agreed! One idea if you’re thinking about transitioning (and have more than one kid) is a bunk bed with a trundle. Baby can start with the trundle – totally safe, since it’s basically on the floor – and as s/he gets older, s/he can graduate to the lower bunk, and then the upper bunk. It’s also great for small apartments, where space is an issue!

  5. about the crib… considering there have been SO MANY bed-sharing (they refer to it as ‘co-sleeping in the news outlets) deaths here, i would be careful about stating that cribs are not necessary anymore

  6. My baby (4th child) is 3 weeks now and I can definitely agree with a lot of that! I do use the baby tub, because of the reasons others stated. Plus, I still had it from the other kids. I also have a swing and bouncy seat, both free. She hasn’t used either yet, but I know the bouncy seat will come in handy. It did with the other babies.

    1. The bath should be a necessity as it is dangerous to hold a baby while showering. A simple sling mesh sink one for $6.00 will do over an elaborate $40 one would have been a better suggestion.
      I agree with the rest . Can people use them , absolutely. Are they 100% needed if you are on a budget, no. Bottom line, you need to provide food, clothing and safety to your child . Keeping those three things in mind, many people have enjoyed co sleeping for centuries. Be mindful that the baby should be on a firm surface , away from pillows, blankets and on their back . The tragedies people hear of are not because of co sleeping, they are because of foolish parents not being responsible co sleepers

  7. Shoes and socks–depends on where and what time of year the baby is born. If you’re in Miami, or it’s summer? Sure, skip them. If you can’t get an all-footy-pants wardrobe for a baby born in New England in December, socks are a must and soft-soled shoes help keep the socks on… see if you can find ones your baby can’t get off.
    We didn’t shower with baby, but after a couple of months we started taking her into the big bathtub with us, and that worked pretty well. The baby tub was nice when we were first learning to handle her, but we would have coped without it.

  8. As a non-cosleeping mama, I wanted to second the whole no-crib sentiment. Both of my children slept in a pack-n-play from birth until toddlerhood. At 14 months for my oldest, and 18 months for the youngest, they switched straight to a twin bed. We started with a mattress on the floor in the corner of the room with a add-on bedrail on the outside edge of the bed. Kids adjusted easily, LOVE their big beds, and told me when they were ready to add the bed frame. It has been safe and highly convenient in addition to saving money and space.
    I skipped the baby tub, but did love the foam pad. Then I put low level of water in the big tub and was ready to go. I could have used a towel, but I liked that the foam pad dried so quickly rather than a soggy towel.
    I do disagree on the monitor. I have been using my monitors every night since my oldest was born. I lived in a tiny apartment but it really helped me distinguish between traffic and people noises and such outside the apartment, and baby noises in the apartment. Also, my husband snores, and that made it more difficult to distinguish regular background noise and baby noise (my oldest is not a screamer, she would just make a little low whine type distressed noise until you came to get her.
    I would also add strollers to the list – why mess around with a bulky, heavy annoying stroller when you could pop them in a ring sling, or an ergo (or maybe one in each! Yes, I have worn both my children at the same time MANY times, it is not bad at all!)
    Over all, I think it is great to get people thinking about what they really need for new baby, and remember – some gear is made to solve a specific problem (like a breast pump) and is absolutely essential for babies and mamas dealing with that particular issue, but that doesn’t make it overly helpful for all new mothers/babies.

  9. yeah, i’d have to say i agree with the mamma above… wipe warmers belong on this list, but considering all the crap they sell for babies, diaper pails, baby tubs, monitors and breast pumps are the best “useless” things you can come up with? And a layette is a set of clothes, i think i used every single piece of the one my sister bought my son… seems like you could’ve tried a little harder…I mean I.personally found baby food to be useless, never bought a single jar, but i like to cook and I stay at home so for me it was unneccesary that doesn’t mean its useless to most moms.

    1. DITTO to baby food! Never bought any. We fed baby what we were eating or avocado/mashed sweet potato if our meal wasn’t baby friendly. Always had something around he could eat. And he’s an excellent eater who has always fed himself. Baby food is expensive and some of it like rice cereal is just essentially sugar and never NEEDS to be introduced to your baby despite the myths people claim (it will help them sleep-FALSE-or get used to food-what? Food gets them used to food…). And I work full time so it’s not like it’s that much effort to just feed your baby regular food.

  10. Pack and play instead of a crib is a great idea theoretically – until you are postpartum and bending that far down (while holding an infant) and getting back up without killing your back is next to impossible. Not mention all those nights with a newborn where you are rocking them while hovering over the crib… ouch! On the same token, other articles like this often claim a changing table isn’t necessary, but it saves your back.
    Wipe warmer gave (or encouraged) a yeast diaper rash my daughter battled for several months. However, for a short period I thought it was THE BEST and wished I used warm clothes for myself in January.
    Hand breast pump??? The last I heard they could actually damaged your milk ducts. If you don’t pump often, it means you will have less experience pumping, so you may want something that doesn’t make it a miserable experience. There are middle-of-the line electric pumps out there. Or – although they say not to buy second hand – I suppose that could be an option for those who aren’t germophobes (not me).
    Baby shoes – no way! Bad for their feet, plus who has time to put them on and take them off all day long? Soft booties in winter are a must in cold climes, though.

  11. I definitely need booties (not hard soled baby shoes) for my baby in the cold New England weather or when I need to keep socks on him, and there are some that are excellent at staying on feet. I use my monitor everyday, and rely on it. And I do love layettes. I think they are the sweetest thing, truly. They are also something that can be shared among friends and family, so it’s not necessary to buy everything, but there is nothing sweeter than newborn baby clothing in my opinion!
    This may be just my opinion, but sometimes I wish the snark level in articles could be taken down a notch. Why do people feel the need to be snarky to get their point across? Snark does not equal humor or wit.

  12. I have to disagree with the wipes warmer. I lived in Nebraska in the winter when my daughter was still in diapers, and I can assure you she appreciated those warm wipes on her bottom. It cost a lot less to use the wipes warmer to keep the washcloth warm in the warmer box than it did to run the tap till the water got hot when the temp was in the negative digits outside! 😉

  13. I’m with some of the others on wipe warmers. I used cloth wipes which was great since we were cloth diapering, and the wipe warmer was a great way to keep them moist. Other wise they would dry out really fast or get moldy. The breast pump was great as well, but I used my sisters with new parts. Everything we never used or never hard.

  14. Ok well the author just completely disqualified her self as a smart parent. No Layette? Is your baby going naked? Seriously please explain to me why a baby would not need a layette? When your write an article as a so called “expert” you might want to do a tiny bit or research, wikipiedia even http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Layette Come on Mothering! Your going downhill by letting people like this write for you! From a mom of 17 years.

  15. FYI if you read further in to this “writters” blog you will see she is anti cloth diapers and pretty much everything else Mothering is all about!

  16. OK Ladies…I read this as a light-hearted, humorous piece. I don’t see a need to attack the author. Some of the previous uses of quotation marks are disrespectful. And she mentioned that she knows what a layette is. Lighten up people. It is hard enough to be a mom without other moms bashing what you do.

  17. I’d just use a stainless steel thermos to keep hot water to wet wipes with. My thermos keeps water hot for 6 hours 🙂 And in the morning I can just fill it with coffee

  18. Some people really need to lighten up and learn to read through all of the author’s words before attacking her! She pretty clearly stated that lots of people will need or want some of the items listed. This was based on her experience. What I got out of the article was that there may be plenty of things you think you’ll need that end up going to waste. While a nice breast pump and a crib are necessary for me, they might not be for everyone else. Everyone needs to figure out what works for them. I will definitely think twice about certain things or hold off until I know for sure I need them. No need to spend a bunch before I know I need to! I will definitely pass on the themed nursery though. I personally couldn’t handle a room full of baby blue or pink. Just me..

  19. lol, pretty funny and I agree with most of these things and can think of a few more, but hey my crib came in real handy to hold clean laundry for years… we bought a king size bed and all 4 of our boys slept with us for many years until we moved them into bunk beds, an A frame one with a double bed on the bottom and a single on top, then they all slept together, until we up graded our house and the two oldest got their own rooms, but the other two still sleep together on the bottom bunk, once in a while I will find one of the older boys in the top bunk, after claiming to have a nightmare or if they cant sleep…. they are all super close and super sweet

  20. I just use warm wet washcloths (tap water from the sink) for wiping bottoms. The little soft-soled leather baby shoes actually stay on (or they have for all 3 of my kids, anyhow), so they are nice to hold the socks on, so that the baby toes stay warm. For us, the baby tub was a necessity, as we were without indoor plumbing part of the time with our first. The author is right on with advocating that the entertainment devices–bouncer, swing, jumper, etc, be gotten as hand-me-downs or picked up used. They’re usually in good shape because few babies use them for long, and it’s just silly to spend money on new ones. We’ve never used a crib at all–we co-sleep at night, use a baby hammock in the daytime. I used a pack and play at work with my first, not at all with the other two. As a stay-at-home mom, a hand breast pump to help with engorgement at first is all I’ve ever had a need for. For the first 6 months or so, a sling is far more useful than a stroller. After that, I find a stroller useful when we go places that don’t have shopping carts–but a good stroller. Most umbrella strollers are just annoying. I like the jogging strollers with the swivel front wheel, as they will handle most terrains easily.
    All a new mom really needs right away, though, is diapers and wipes, clothes, blankets, a boppy and a couple of slings.

  21. Yes, lots of these things are not necessities…….however those precious few moments of sleep that a new mother gets are, which is exactly what some of these items help you get!

  22. Someone gave me a Diaper Genie when I had my daughter- that thing is the biggest ongoing waste of money that we ran into. The thing that solved the diaper issue for us was using GDiapers. I was on an extremely tight budget and the initial investment was tough, but they were the best investment. We used the flushable/disposable/compostable liners. If I’m ever lucky enough to conceive again, I’ll use GDiapers again.

  23. Oh- and let me add to this list- no one needs a changing table. We had a changing pad and sat on the bed to change diapers. So easy. Saving money is a challenge with a newborn, so anything I didn’t have to buy, I didn’t. 🙂

  24. I think every mom’s “don’t need” list will be different. Moms who need to go back to work outside the home will need a breastpump and the best one available for quick pumping without pain (i’ve seen the damage done to breasts from crappy cheap pumps)

  25. The important thing is to realize that you can, and should, question pretty much every single item on a “must have” baby list. The vast majority of them are not actually *necessary,* so it’s up to you to decide what would actually be useful to YOU. I have only ever used one of the items on this list.

    Of course, the thing I used was the layette which, as many people have pointed out, is just another word for baby clothes. Really, if you don’t know what a word means, you should look it up before announcing to the world that you have never used it and don’t need it.

  26. This is a fun article and I definitely laughed! Humour aside, some new moms may be a bit confused about it…
    I agree about diaper genie, wipe warmer and baby shoes, but some of the things on the list are quite useful. I, for one, am very happy to have a baby bath tub. We do not have a big bath and it is difficult to wash baby in the shower if you are just one (it is not always that both partners can be there when needed). After all, they are also quite cheap…
    As for socks, I definitely had that problem of them falling off at first, but now found some brands that stay on.

  27. Disagree on a few things…
    Monitor – we got a cheap one that stopped working after a couple of weeks so we didn’t use it that much but DH and I love to sit outside and talk after work and a good monitor would have saved on a lot of “was that the baby? let me check… no.”
    Expensive breast pump – now I don’t know if it’s me or the pump, but I think my cheap walmart pump was not working that well and I ended up having to stop breastfeeding when DS was 9 months because I barely had any milk left in me. I had to go back to work when he was 7 weeks and my milk production went pretty much downward, pumpin barely 6-7 ounces a day (I have a big drinker).
    Baby bath tub – I tried to take a shower with my newborn and it was a total fail! Of course you can give him a bath in the sink once in a while but it’s nice to sit on a milk crate in te bathroom and give a good bath to your lying baby (loved the foam and still use it for my back in the bath tub!)
    – The bouncer. We had ONE bouncer and it cost $25, we used it everyday from 2 months to 7 months. Like I said we love to sit outside and that’s perfect for sitting on the porch with your baby or simply do the dishes. We gave it to new parents.

  28. I have to say that most baby items are essential to somebody somewhere. I worked with a long commute and my top of the line brestpump was my best friend. When I hurt my back, I needed a stroller or cart to go anywhere on foot with my kids. Wipe warmer was essential in the CO wintertime as otherwise wipes were ice cold. Baby shoes kept baby socks on feet which prevented frostbite (we used Robees). Crib was great for a quiet place to nap, and height adjustment was essential with my bad back. We had a diaper pail, and it worked great at keeping the dog out of soiled diapers (yes, it could be just a gross as that sounds.)….I guess my point is that some things that I found useless (pacifiers, baby chew toys, carseat dangles, formula, baby food maker) were essential for some of my friends. I guess the key is there are some things you can wait to see if you need, and others you must have. We had a million things for baby 1 due to showers and gifts, but when she came we realized we had no wipes (cloth or disposable!). After cleaning diaper #1 with a hand towel, I was calling my mom to get me wipes at the store. :-D. We had a homebirth, however. I suppose hospital birthed babies most likely get hospital supplied wipes.

    1. I’ve always poo-poohed wipe warmers, until this baby! I’d always had summer babies, well now it’s winter and we live in a cold climate this time! I decided to use cut up old clothes that I wet in warm water before a change, but I have a friend who also just had a baby. What was the gift I chose to get her for her baby shower? A wipe warmer. Hah!

  29. I really adhered to the simplest things when it came to my babies. I was gifted a arms reach co-sleeper at my baby shower, so I have no need to even set up the crib until they start pulling themselves upright. As much as I LOVE little cute baby layette sets, I have to admit they are a pain. You are always pulling or adjusting something. Shirt goes up, pant legs go up, etc. I just kept mine in the sleep n plays. Keeps everything warm, even in the coldest northern climate that we live in. Never had a wipes warmer, never will. Had a swing with my first, second hated it, got a bouncer off of craigs for $5. Never have seen the point of a diaper genie and neither have any of my disposable using friends. I have a bucket with a lid for the cloth. I bought a Medela used and just bought all new parts for it (tubing, shields, etc), works fine and was less than half the cost. Never used baby shoes or socks unless it went with an outfit for portraits. I painted the nursery yellow………..is unisex a theme?? Had a monitor because we have the big of a house, did use binkies occasionally (more so when I went back to work) and none of mine have watched tv before 2 so baby einstein can kiss it. lol!

  30. I want to add changing table to this list too. We just put a blanket down on the bed and change him. Also actual burp rags; those things aren’t big enough to catch spit up; the old style cloth diapers work best. A mobile is also totally useless, we used ours maybe once.

  31. Whoa. Very surprised at this community. Velvet the claws please! It was a humorous, tongue in cheek article, that perhaps may make us think twice about what is truly useful in our over consuming lives. I see no reason to attack.

  32. Well, I for one completely agree with this article. I even agree with layette, because anyone who believes themselves to need a “layette” for their newborn is going about this entirely the wrong way. Your child is a person.

  33. Don’t fill your baby changer with every baby skincare product on the market! Just start by bathing in cooler water for shorter periods and less frequently 🙂

  34. I had a second hand stroller for my Aunt to push the babies in. It was not for me, but for others. She was 75 and would never be able to wear my babies.

  35. I had a second hand stroller for my Aunt to push the babies in. It was not for me, but for others. She was 75 and would never be able to wear my babies.

  36. Turns out all I really, REALLY needed for my newborns was a car seat, cloth diapers, and a blanket or two. Now that they’re six and ten, they seem to “need” a lot more!

  37. So… I don’t need a wipe warmer. I can see the baby stop and sigh in the midst of her cries when I pull one out. I use a cold one? More screaming. This includes face boogers. And I don’t need a crib, swing, bouncy thing… But my neighbour has all of these and is giving them to me for free! I don’t need it, but I’m not saying no. And I live in Canada so, yeah. Baby gets socks. And shoes. And five more layers.

    I don’t need it, but I’m being given it thanks to a generous friend. All I am putting on my wish list is a bassinet on wheels. I’m having a medically-mandatory C-section and shouldn’t carry anything after the baby’s born. I’m lifting my baby and you can’t stop me! But I can’t carry her all the time. 🙁

  38. I loved my baby monitor because our girls weren’t allowed to sleep with us. I was forced to sleep with my mother due to HER insecurities and swore that my kids would have there own space. If they had a bad dream or were sick, we would sleep in their room. Cribs were a definite must since I had a friend that co-slept with their child and it ended up dying in the night. As you said, these are Ll personal prefernces.

    Breast pumps are nice if you work or if you’re kids go to grandmas for the weekend.

  39. Hahaha! So true! I do love my baby bouncer. I have used it for the last three babies, and it’s been especially awesome for this last one because she has a sensitive reflux, and it keeps her semi upright while sleeping. I don’t want her in it all the time, but sometimes you’ve gotta take a shower! It was actually the one thing I wanted to buy for this, baby #5. I had always used borrowed ones before. And what color did I pick out for my little princess? Dark brown. It’s not my first rodeo, and I know alllll about poop and spit-up! Hah! I got it used, too, and only paid $12! Good deal for something I use every day!

  40. You don’t need a ton of newborn cloths. They are adorable, but the baby usually wears them for about five minutes. Baby needs something to go to church in, and a bunch of onesies and/or footie sleepers. 3-6 months and beyond is more important. Just my $0.2

  41. I really wish I had read articles like this before I had my baby and did the whole baby registry thing. I wish I had only received hand-me-downs and had waited until he was born to get big items like cribs and bathtubs and swings. We now have so many things that I basically never use and I’ve used Craigslist to get things once I’ve had a chance to research. You can’t know what you need before the baby is born.

  42. I stopped reading after 2.
    It’s called Google and or a dictionary. Use one or the other. And chances are you did have a layette for each of your children, unless they were naked the first months of their lives….

  43. I think I agree that every mom’s list will be different. Also need is different from want. We wanted a wipes warmer because of the New England winter and it was fabulous to have it but it wasn’t a need. On the other hand, my son was a tummy sleeper. Our motion sensitive monitor woke us and him a few nights well so in retrospect, that was a need. The pack n play did not work for me at all. Every time I put them down they woke up because it is so deep and low to the floor and I had difficulty getting them in. however, in truth most of what we ‘need’ is really luxury.

  44. Layette… Really, the ‘onesies’, since the baby must wear pants & booties/socks, or a skirt & tights, with them, or have cold legs & feet or a hot torso, depending on air-temp., & then it’s a huge chore to be taking off all that & unsnapping the shirt & pulling it up just to change the baby, then putting it all back together. I always had my baby in gowns as much as possible: fast & easy for changing, & cute. For when the baby needs to be strapped into something, such as the car-seat, pajama-suits in cold weather & ‘romper’-suit in hot weather: simplest things next to gowns, & cute again.

    Crib… Hadn’t wanted one, got one as a gift, & it was impossible for baby to sleep in it anyway. Kept her in the bed (according to the rules for safety, so much safer than crib, with its risk of SIDS, a.k.a. CRIB/COT death, & risk of me being delirious from sleep-deprivation & unable to care for baby, & risk of falling asleep during day & dropping baby) & everything was perfect.

    Diaper pail… My mom used the kind you take the lid off to put the diaper in, in the bathrm, & the bathrm stank ALL the time. I had a Diaper Champ, not Genie, original model. Only place we had rm for changing downstairs was in the DINING rm, but it was fine. Kept smells perfectly contained at every moment until it had to be emptied. Lost it though. Now have Planet Wise bags which are supposed to do as well & are portable & look nicer.

    Baby bath tub… Took my 1st baby in the tub, & eventually shower, with me. Born at 21″, she never would have fit in a bathrm sink. This next baby is estimated to be 9 lb. 5 oz. & that’s the wt %ile comparable to the prev. length. I guess if you have tiny babies & you pad it, putting them in the bathrm sink, or if you don’t but you pad it really well, the kitchen, would work for a while at least. But it sounds unsanitary, since babies make messes in the water sometimes. Our kitchen sink is porous, & who wants to scour before & after anyway? This time though, the house has a small tub, I don’t fit in it so well, I have arthritis in my back, & chronic mono that makes me get chilled, & babies are still slippery in the shower. So I need something that can go on a counter & hold a huge baby. So I got the Primo Euro Bath.

    Themed nursery… Agree. Esp. with having the baby’s name on the wall in big, trendy letters. The baby isn’t going to learn it from that. I hate words & signs in general on walls. It’s like they’re repeating themselves at me every time I glance at them. Tiresome.

    Baby monitors… Some babies, like mine, can’t stand to be away from you for a moment anyway. And I wouldn’t want anything added to the risk of SIDS, & being separated does that.

    Socks… Never had a problem with them. They or booties are a must here in NE IN, which has the same climate as much of Canada that others have mentioned.

    Pacifiers… Naively tried a few times, they were rejected, but never would use now anyway. A baby tolerating one is a baby that needs to nurse.

    Stroller… As you might guess, it terrified my baby because she couldn’t see or feel me. Carried her everywhere in my arms. Going with the Mamaway ring sling this time though, to be maybe easier on arms & back, & aid nursing.

    Changing table… You can put a pad on top of a dresser & you have 2 in 1. I would never change my baby on the bed: babies sometimes pee in the middle of changes & can even spray poop 2 or 3 ft away. Would be terrible to try to get out of a mattress or duvet.

    Boppy… I’m not quite 5′ 6″, & was only size 10 right after my 1st baby, but the Boppy did not fit around me & was not nearly thick enough. Maybe 1 1/2 times the diameter & 2 times the thickness could have worked, but as it was, impossible. I just held the baby in my arms or we’d lie down side by side.

    Other stuff: Pop-out infant car-seat (unless the baby is still small in a particularly cold climate, only to strap in & get out the baby indoors), which look heavy & terribly unwieldy, & which can cause a flat head; baby-‘gyms’, I don’t see the point of & think babies would rather be carried around to do stuff WITH you; electronic toys, which I think would cause distractability in the baby & know would cause insanity in me with their endless tinny music & overly cheery singing.

  45. I like this list. All a baby truly needs is probably love, diapers and milk? I never used my Bumbo seat nor did I use a stroller until the baby was over 18 months old when I stopped carrying her. I don’t know why I stressed over getting that nice stroller for day 1. It just sat and gathered dust!

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