October is Attachment Parenting month! Celebrate with this roundup of some of our most popular AP articles.
Here, we look at what Attachment Theory tells us about the importance of early relationships for the development of an individual’s basic sense of security in life. Through bonding with this caregiver, a child develops expectations about the extent to which he or she can acquire and maintain secure relationships.
Maybe my family is just nuts, but I think everyone’s family is a little nuts. I wanted my family (and close friends) to agree with me. I wanted their admiration and respect. I wanted them to be on board. But in the end I just had to stop listening to everyone and start listening to myself.
Human babies are born helpless, needing to be entirely cared for and protected. Luckily, they are born with all the necessary tools and “instructions” to attain such care for themselves, and to become a loved and loving part of their family and society.
I’ve always found it odd that the principles of Attachment Parenting are criticized as promoting dependence in children when, if you analyze the proper development of independence in childhood, the attachment style would be considered the ideal method for raising competent adults.
While I was pregnant with my first baby, I wanted to breastfeed – but because I would save money and because breast milk is superior to formula. At that time, I didn’t know anything about attachment or how important breastfeeding behaviors are to the mother-baby emotional bond.
Parenting precepts scare me. I’m Jewish and from New Jersey, so I’m prone to worry. My neurotic mind can turn any set of precepts into another explanation of why I have failed. But I have found that Dr. William Sears’ seven precepts (known as the seven Bs) of Attachment Parenting are different.
Attachment as a style of nurturing and loving our children is a beautiful thing. It also can be quite exhausting — especially if all the attachment, co-sleeping, feeding, loving, holding, answering, nurturing, and touching is done by just one person. Mom. But it isn’t called attachment mothering, is it? It’s called Attachment PARENTING.
Every once in a while I hear about a mother struggling to be the perfect “attached parent” and feeling like she is failing miserably. I don’t know exactly what attachment parenting means to you; in fact, I am not sure what it means to me. But I do think that many of us feel like failures if we haven’t checked off a million things on our “perfect attached mom” list.