I have three little girls five years old and younger, and they love princesses. I don’t think there has been a single day over the last two years that at least one person in our house hasn’t been wearing a tiara and pearls. We have it all — the dresses, the boas, and the books. Oh, the books!
I know little tot princess culture is a hot topic of sorts, with some people hating everything about it and other people thinking it is a harmless phase that many little girls go through.
I guess you could say I’m kind of in the middle. I don’t see any problem with little girls dressing up like princesses if they want to. Mine will often be dressed as princess doctors or princess vets. I just don’t see anything wrong with little ones wanting to be fancy as long as they know and understand that fancy is fun but brains and kindness and bravery and a dozen other things matter more.
The problem I find, however, is that the stories that go along with many princesses don’t exactly promote that message. When my oldest was two or three and we started reading princess books, I was horrified to find that most were about meeting a prince, being saved by a prince, pining after a prince… You get the idea. I think the one that eventually did us in was the one about the beautiful blue jacket the prince bought. Like I said, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with fancy, but swooning over an article of clothing goes a bit too far in my book.
Not wanting to stifle my girls’ interests but also wanting to make sure they have solid role models, I have spent the last few years searching out books that have stronger messages about what a girl can, could, and should be. Here are just a few of our current favorites.
by Jane Yolen and Heidi E. Y. Stemple.
This book is about a bunch of princesses who do all sorts of fun things like play baseball and use power tools all while wearing a sparkly crown. The message is clear. A princess can be a princess and still do anything she wants to do.
by Ludwig Bemelmans.
This is actually a series of books about a little girl named Madeline. While we have not read through them all, the ones that we have read captured my heart immediately. The rhyme and story lines are quite original, and Madeline is portrayed as a very brave little girl who isn’t even afraid of tigers at the zoo. The books have very catchy rhymes, and this is always high on my list of recommended books.
by Jane O’Connor.
Again, this is a series of books. Nancy is a young girl who loves doing everything fancy but who lives in a very plain family. The first book is about her giving “fancy lessons” to her family, but there are quite a few other ones with different themes and story lines. My favorite aspect of these books is that among other things, Nancy loves using fancy (big) words, so it’s a great vocabulary lesson as well as a great lesson about sounding intelligent when you speak.
by Deborah Underwood
This story is about a little girl who is very ordinary by day, but as soon as she goes to bed, she becomes a princess who gets to slay dragons, fight fires, and dance with trolls. It’s a cute story about make believe and being a hero.
by Jennifer Fosberry
We just recently came across this series of books, and I am in love. Isabella is a little girl who pretends to be different people at different parts of her day. Riding on the bus, she says her name is Rosa (like Rosa Parks) and she is a brave activist. At a different point, she is Elizabeth (Elizabeth Blackwell,) the greatest doctor who ever lived. There are six famous, highly accomplished women alluded to in the book, and at the end, there is a very brief biography of each of them, and I cannot wait to spend hours talking about these women with my little girls.
by Robert Munsch
I don’t think any list of books about strong role models would be complete without mentioning Princess Elizabeth of The Paper Bag Princess. After a dragon kidnaps Prince Ronald, Elizabeth uses her cunning to save him from the dragon’s lair. After all of her hard work, Prince Ronald complains that Elizabeth isn’t fancy enough to be with him because she is wearing only a paper bag after the dragon destroyed her clothes. I won’t tell you how Elizabeth responds to this because it was such a treat to read her response the first time around that I don’t want to ruin it for you. But if you are looking for a book about a strong princess, her response will not disappoint you.
So these are some of our favorites. I’m sure there are many more as well as many books that provide equally strong role models for little boys. Is there anything I am missing? What are some of your favorite books with strong role models for little ones?
Amanda Knapp, M.A., is a stay at home mom to three little girls. One day she looked around her life and realized that it was all going by much too quickly for her tastes. She wasn’t finding the time to savor the moments and the lessons they had to teach. So she started a blog to document it all. She can be found on her blog, Indisposable Mama and on her Facebook page.