Thank you to Jennifer Margulis for sharing this excerpt from her most recent blog post with us. You can read the full article on her blog.
Doctors and other care providers want you to do things their way. But often their way is based on habit, fear of liability, or expediency. Unlike homebirth midwives, obstetricians almost never request their patients keep a food and exercise log. They almost never take 45-minutes to review the foods you’ve eaten in the past week, counsel you on good nutrition, and strategize on how best to exercise during your pregnancy. And also unlike homebirth midwives, obstetricians usually don’t know any more about nutrition than you do.
Most doctors practice what one obstetrician I interviewed recently called “reactive instead of proactive medicine.” (Unlike his colleagues, this doctor uses a homebirth midwifery model to interact with his clients.) There is a profound lack of logic in reacting to problems after they arise instead of preventing them in the first place. Yet if the patient rejects a routine test or suggests an alternative strategy, no matter how logical the objection is for this particular case, many pregnancy health care providers will use scare tactics and bullying to try to force the patient to change her mind. They’ll accuse you of being irresponsible, become angry at what they perceive to be your lack of intelligence, label you a problem patient, and tell you, “Don’t do it my way and your baby will die.”
Melanie Mayo-Laakso is the Content Manager for Mothering.com. Mothering is the birthplace of natural family living and attachment parenting. We celebrate the experience of parenthood as worthy of one’s best efforts and are at once fierce advocates for children and gentle supporters of parents.