Welcome to Part VI in the Feeding Your Children Series. Here are some “trouble shooting” tips:
If you are knee-deep in habits that you regret, ease yourself out little by little. Understand that it may take time to transform your pantry and your eating habits.
Use the language of impermanence around food. If your child proclaims she “hates broccoli” you can answer with “I understand that you don’t care for it today.” This leaves the future wide open; taste buds can change on a dime, especially for young folk.
Continue to offer vegetables, spicy food, and “different” food with the language of impermanence, day after day, as in: “I know that you didn’t like this yesterday, but you may like it today!”
While you are waiting for preferences to change, you can couch vegetables within more traditionally accepted foods: carbohydrates, smoothies or baked goods; spinach tortellini pasta, grated carrot or zucchini within enchiladas, green powder or fresh spinach in a smoothie, or zucchini muffins.
If you have valid concerns that your child continues to only gravitate towards certain foods such as snacky carbohydrates, try not having that food in your home for a week; “Oh, we don’t have any crackers.” Then offer your child an array of choices or let them decide what they would like to eat instead. If your child is too dismayed about the lack of crackers, wait it out with love and compassion; your child can have his feelings, eat nothing for a moment and then return to the issue of what to eat once he has had time to move through his disappointment.
The miracle of a new sauce can go a long way to transform a child’s experience of protein or vegetables. Try ketchup, cream sauce, peanut sauce, cheese sauce, tamari, olive oil, or salad dressing.
Lastly, to reduce stress, arguments and micro-managing at the dining table, only offer your children healthy food that you are comfortable them consuming in the order of their choosing.
About Jessica Williams
Jessica Williams created L.O.V.E. Parenting with a series of techniques for effective communication, deepened connection and more joy in parenting and life. Jessica is also the creator of www.UltimateParentingCourse.com with the best of today’s progressive parenting experts together in one program. Jessica is a featured expert internationally on both Mothering.com’s Ask An Expert and the upcoming www.KidsInTheHouse.com. Jessica is a regular contributor to Mothering Magazine’s All Things Mothering, LA Parent Magazine, LA Mom Magazine & DailyBuzzMoms. She has been interviewed on television and radio and taught workshops at family wellness centers, schools and doctor’s offices. Her BirthKit has helped women have a transformational & empowering birth. Jessica maintains a private coaching practice in her native Los Angeles where she lives with her husband and their three children. “Truly amazing woman. I love her advice.”—Carrie-Anne Moss. “All you have shared has helped tremendously.”—Lisa Bonet. “I am experiencing nothing short of a miracle thanks to your laser beam approach.” –Andrea Bendewald.