Giving Compliments, World Peace, and the Warm Fuzzies

I want to start a Compliment Revolution. There are a few revolutions I’d like to ignite, actually, but this one is super easy. If you’re with me {go ahead, shout it now, “I’m with you!”,} I think we could change the world this very week. So I’m declaring this the week of Global of Compliments. Someone call Hallmark and the Nobel Peace Prize committee.




1. Sincerity is paramount. Fake compliments are very bad juju. The good news is that you shouldn’t have to look too hard to find reasons to compliment the people around you.


2. Compliments on how great someone looks are an easy way to spread the love…

I was standing in line at The Gap and there was a 30-something woman ahead of me – cute as a button, she was. Pixie hair cut + red nails. She was wearing a houndstooth knit poncho, skinny jeans, patent leather ankle boots and an over-sized men’s watch. She had it goin’ on. I waited until she was snapping her wallet shut and leaned forward and said, “You look great,” and gave her that chick-to-chick “well done” nod. “Oh really? she said. “I don’t feel great.” And then her eyes filled with tears. “Gee, that was so nice to hear, thanks.” And I just nodded, a bit taken aback myself, my own eyes a bit misty. I hoped she walked a bit taller all the way home.


3. Compliments are a tiny but potent form of intimacy. If you’re complimenting a total stranger, make it brief and quick so your pure intentions don’t get misconstrued as a come on. Sometimes, it’s best to compliment someone as a “drive by” or last minute gesture. And use your best intuition for the vibe. I once walked up to a woman in a food court and said, “You look fucking fabulous.” She just about choked on her salad roll, but she did smile from ear to ear and I saw her grinning and nodding to herself as I walked away.


4. Compliments for good customer service are a joy to give, especially when you go out of your way to give them.


Last week I called customer service to open a new bank account online. “Just keep clicking ‘other,’” The guy prompted me. “And be sure to transfer this there before you do that or you’ll get dinged a fee.” He was my hero. “Robert,” I said, “this was such great service. Do you have a supervisor I can talk to? I’d like to tell them that you’re great.” Well I thought Robert was going to break out into a show tune he was so happy. And, get this…when I spoke to his manager, he told me that staff with the most positive customer feedback will win a free cruise this year. So my one minute compliment may land Robert a good tan and some pina coladas when he most needs them.


5. Keep it simple. Send love through your eyes and voice. Imagine things blooming from your lil’ gesture of goodness.


I want to hear how you rock the force of positivity for universal good. We can do it. We’re amazing human beings, each of us. Don’t need to look too far to comment on that.





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About Danielle LaPorte

Danielle LaPorte is the author of the book The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide for Creating Success on Your Own Terms (from Random House/Crown). An inspirational speaker, former think tank exec and business strategist, she is the creator of the online program The Spark Kit: A Digital Experience for Entrepreneurs and co-author of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan. Over a million visitors have gone for her straight-up advice on, a site that has been deemed “the best place on-line for kick-ass spirituality.”

You can find her on Facebook and on Twitter @daniellelaporte


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