Mothering from the heart rather than the head, involves living by principles rather than rules. Therefore, we replace, ‘You must do this because I said so’, to considering the purpose of the requested action and the accompanying emotional or relationship affect.
Rules discourage thought whereas principles encourage it. We have to be more mindful as a mother who lives by principles and treat each situation differently. There are no 1-2-3 solutions in mothering when you live by principles. When we are trying to make a mothering decision nothing helps more than to be clear on what our principles are.
We should question the rules, and question the principles as well. But once you and your family have chosen the principles important to the family, you’ll find that no one will want to change or break or get around them like they will rules.
Whilst rules are constraining and take little thought, principles take consideration and mindful thinking, and will make family life thrive!
About Chaley-Ann Scott
Chaley-Ann Scott is a parenting author, sociologist, counsellor, and mother-of-four. She writes widely on parenting and education for various publications, and is the author of The Shepherdess; A Guide to Mothering without Control.