Mother Defends Herself For Having Sex While Breastfeeding

Some people are calling this a sex act. Vlogger, Tasha Maile, is under fire as she recently opened up about having sex while her baby was dream feeding. Now some people are saying she involved her child in a sex act.

If you know anything about Vlogger Tasha Maile, you probably know she puts herself out there — way out there. She shares stories about her vegan lifestyle and conscious, attachment parenting strategies, but what she’s most well-known for is how openly she shares videos of her children nursing. Maile’s videos focus heavily on attachment parenting, and particularly focus on the normalization of breastfeeding.

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Many applaud Maile for admitting she has breastfed while having sex. Nursing one’s baby is not a sexual act, but an act of necessity for the baby, and that she shouldn’t be condemned for caring for her baby, regardless of where she is or what else she is doing.

Others, however, believe that admitting to having sex while her three-month old was asleep on her breast constitutes near criminal activity. Some are even saying she was engaging her child in a sexual act.

Maile recently appeared on the English morning show, This Morning With Phil and Holly, where she explained her breastfeeding decisions, and openly talked about her controversial stance on breastfeeding while having sex.

A petition has been created to bring charges against Maile, saying her admission to ‘sex from behind, or something like that,’ while her baby slept on her breast, borders on child pornography.

Maile, even in the midst of the controversy, still defends her position, saying that the baby was not awake and cognizant enough to think, “Oh my gosh. Mommy and daddy are having sex.”

And, as most pediatricians now recommend keeping babies in rooms with their parents until at least a year, we’d imagine that many, many babies all over the world have been privy to, um, the intimacies of their parents’ lovemaking.

But where is the line drawn? Many say that sex can and should wait until the baby is not attached, but in Maile’s case, where she says he is attached 24-7 — what then? Others compare this scenario to breastfeeding one’s baby while in the shower — you do what you’ve gotta do to make sure the baby is fed and healthy.

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Research suggests most memories don’t typically form as long-lasting concepts that can be recalled until about nine months.

It’s a slippery slope, really, as many, including me, find ourselves scratching our heads and thinking, “Well, who of us hasn’t done _____  while nursing the baby just to keep him content?” While we simultaneously think, “But sex…there’s such a blurred line because of the intimacy of the act.”

More, how is this to be judged as okay or not? As Maile said, the baby was sleeping, completely unaware, and sex is as natural an act as nursing one’s baby.

Many still see breastfeeding as a sexual act, or at the very least, sexualized because it includes the (gasp) breast. Which, to a degree, we can understand because breasts are often very important body parts when it comes to sex.

But they are more important (and many would argue, most important) when it comes to feeding one’s baby, a concept Maile has been very vocal about since she began airing her videos.

What do you think?

Photo: Tasha Maile


9 thoughts on “Mother Defends Herself For Having Sex While Breastfeeding”

  1. I’ve done it Sometimes you’ve got to seize the opportunity. It is multitasking and not sexual At All for the nursing baby. Nor are they aware get over yourself people how do you think the baby was made!

  2. Get real first-worlders. A great majority of the rest of the world utilizes the family bed. And the kids keep coming. Let the sleeping babies lie while life goes on.

  3. How absolutely rediculous that someone would call her out like that. I’ve nursed all nine of my babies. In all sorts of situations. You may not agree with ger, you nay think it crosses a line. But check your self righteous indignation and GTF over yourself.

  4. I’ve done it lots ! It’s crazy for anyone to compare this to sexual abuse. It’s a sleeping infant. DUH! It’s been done for millennia! Lots of nighttime nursing is what keeps your babies spaced naturally apart enough.?

  5. Hell yes! So happy only positive comments so far! I’ve done it too! I feel like it would be UNnatural to keep the two purposely set apart.

  6. I breast fed all 3 of my babies. adding up to over 4 years of it. Breast feeding is not a 24/7 thing. They do not still need to be attached to a nipple while asleep.
    On the having sex while breast feeding, what came to my mind is your breast are aroused during sex. So baby may not remember, but it still seems like a line is being crossed.

    1. Your breasts are aroused during breastfeeding. Breastfeeding wouldn’t work if your breasts didn’t respond by nipples becoming erect and hormones initiating a let down of milk. The exact same physiological reactions happen in the breast whether they are being stimulated during sex, by a breastfeeding baby, or by breastfeeding while also engaging in sex. You are not having sex with your baby when you breastfeed–regardless of whether or not you actually are having sex with someone else at the time.

    2. I’ve nursed my 6 kids for a total of almost 15 years. I lost sensation in my nipples a LONG time ago. My youngest has been weaned for 2 years, and I was told the sensation would eventually come back…but it hasn’t come back yet. So no, nursing the baby during sex would not be a sexual feeling at all to me.

      I’ve nursed one of my children during sex because said child woke up right in a spot where we didn’t want to stop…so I latched the baby on to get her quiet, and we kept going. No big deal. I’ve also reached over and rubbed the back of a slightly fussy baby in a cosleeper while having sex as well. You do what you need to do.

  7. Why is it that some of the same people who are complaining would think nothing of having their baby in a room with a TV show portraying murder, and hatred, yet the idea of having a baby anywhere around two people engaged in the most loving act possible is abhorrent?

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