A Numbers Game


By Lauren Apfel for Brain, Child: The Magazine for Thinking Mothers

I have always been a woman of words, so it came as something of a surprise how motherhood has made me fixated on numbers. And not necessarily in a good way. It seems to be a thing these days, a tendency: to tally, to count, to know where your children stand in one numerical line or other. A normal means of marking time and gauging development, for sure. But also, let’s be honest, a confidence booster in the face of the uncertain work of parenting that all is well and, in some instances, that all is better than well.

It started in the hospital, this obsession, when my first child was born. Actually, no, it started before that, with the ticking off of months then weeks then days until he arrived. 8 days late, but he was big and I was proud. An Apgar score of 9 after 1 minute, his hands and feet a dusky blue, but a perfect 10 after 5. 8 pounds 13 ounces, or as the cupped scale in the UK hospital told me: 4 kilograms precisely. I began to breastfeed him, watching the clock as I went, 25 minutes on one side, 10 minutes on the other. I couldn’t see how much was going in, so I counted what was coming out instead. How many pees today, how many poos? Let’s get him back on the scale. 75% for weight, 91% for height, we charted his growth intently that first year, the dots on the page stretching out like a broken constellation.

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  1. All parents want the best for their baby. Can grow up healthy, smart, and powerful. It is the natural desire of every parent.

    Especially today where competition of life is increasingly high. Everyone should strive to make the best for their child so as to face the competition and achieve life success.

    To achieve the highest performance, children are always driven by a variety of ways. On the other hand, this condition is used by various companies to create products that can meet the parent’s desire.

    The question is whether it is really capable of producing the best in safety and comfort? It is something we have to ask so that we do not become objects for profit by others who want to earn a profit. It is really important to make the healthy and safe generation.

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