Shy Mama in a Social Family

Good morning friends.  Another quiet morning on the farm, or at least it started out that way.  Only been up for 3 hours and already we’ve had 3 visitors, and know of 4 more coming by this afternoon.  At the heart, I’m a shy girl – I tend to derive my energy from time on my own or with one or two friends.  Keeping it small is what it’s all about.  And then I got married to a marvelously social man, known and loved in our community of friends.   He thrives on people – and lots of them.

Thankfully, we are both deeply commited to community, and somehow we manage to find a good balance.  Our rural home on a hillside helps me find the privacy I crave, and occasional days when I see nobody beyond our two families living on the land & the chickens and cows. Other days are more abundant with visitors, and on these days I cherish the good people who are part of our life, and retreat to the kitchen when I need a moment!  Here is a guest post from my wonderful husband sharing with you one of our more abundant days (yesterday):


Come Fall Apart in My Backyard, by Rick Juliusson

Numerologically speaking, WildSide Farm is a five. Not in the half-of-Bo-Derek sense, but something like it’s alive with people, comings and goings, life. At least, that’s what visitor # 14 said today.

Take today, for example. A day with Absolutely Nothing in the dayplanner. No people, no appointments, no reason except school to leave the land. But then…

The phone rang and I was suddenly babysitting a 2 and 4-year-old for a gloriously fun and active hour in the afternoon, then a visit with their mom at pick-up. Amy and her four (4) children stopped by to take care of the cows. Zekiah’s friend invited herself over after school to help rake up apple-branch prunings. Two grade-eight boys came by to help me move a pile of lumber into the barn to dry. The neighbour boy lurked around on his stilts, and his mom joined him to visit the calves. Rachel and her son came to pick up the eighth-graders and stayed for a quick tour and visit. Valdelia brought Tristan home from preschool. A repeat visitor/friend came for an unexpected overnight in our WildSide B&B room. Crystal and her son Tristan joined us for dinner as usual.

In case you lost count, that’s a transformation from a quiet 2-adult, 2-children family day to a joyous cacophony of 9 adults and 14 children. That, my friends, is what I love about living in community, and why our farm website exhorts you to “Come fall apart in my backyard.” (It’s also probably why I’m staying up on my own to write this and enjoy the silence.)


How does community shape your experience of home, mamas?

How do those of you with partners who are more shy / more social than you handle the difference in your needs?



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About Sarah Juliusson

Sarah Juliusson, founder of Mama Renew, is a gifted facilitator and writer on the journey of birth & motherhood. She brings two decades of experience supporting families through pregnancy, birth and motherhood to her work. Sarah is mother to two growing boys, a playful crafter with cloth & wool, student of traditional food preservation, and a diva at heart. Join the conversation on & on facebook at

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