Growing up in a family of three sisters, there have been many things about raising boys that I have adjusted to along the way. The “VROOM! VROOM!!!” that erupted spontaneously from my one-year-old as his chunky toddler hands drove the toy car around the coffee table. The innate need to jump on and off the couch day after day, despite constant reminders of safety. The obsession with Star Wars and Batman. The physical response to happiness, excitement, frustration, anger … or need for connection. Some of these traits can be seen in little girls, too, of course. But the intensity of them in my household has sometimes taken me by surprise and made me rethink some of the assumptions I had about what life with my children would be like.
I do have some guidelines of this type of play as they are still learning how to communicate with one another and how to roughhouse without hurting. It is my job to be aware of their physical, emotional, and mental well being. I make sure that their dad or I am always in the same room as they play so that we can help out if things get out of hand. Usually they wrestle on our king-sized bed, so I just occupy myself with a task in the vicinity to be available when needed. If one of them start dominating the other, I help the other one speak up for themselves and remind them to listen to one another so that it remains fun for both of them. (We want sibling bonding, not one as the bully and the other as the victim…) Lastly, I am there for them to remind them that it is a game when things go sour, as things sometimes do in any activity between brothers.
Although I love the quiet of a peaceful house, I also love the sound of my children connecting with one another, learning about give and take and communication in a relationship, and above all else having fun. To this I say, “Ding! Ding! Let the wrestling match begin!”
About Amber Sparks
Amber Sparks is a mama of two homeschooling boys and a Mommy/Baby and Family Yoga Teacher. She blogs about her families’ adventures in and out of the wrestling ring at Heart Wanderings.