The Sibling Bed: never sleep alone

Loft with play area underneath

Loft with play area underneath

Hi Friends,

When my son was 9-months old, I used to lay on my back and nurse him to sleep cradled under my arm on my left, while cuddling my older daughter under my arm on my right.

During this process, I would try desperately to relax enough to soothe them to sleep, while still keeping one sliver of awareness on conscious thought so that I could extricate myself when that magic moment occurred of deep-dropping-down for my children.

At that point, I would delicately lift limbs and with the grace of the Momma-ballerina, remove myself from the bed. Then, I would walk into the living room and join my husband for something that resembled a conversation or a date with just the two of us. There would be this moment of “Ahh” as we fell on the couch, lit candles, and began to enjoy the silence of the house.

And then it hit us; there are two kiddies, who don’t need us at all right now, and they are sleeping in our bed. If I had a large mattress ON THE FLOOR in their room, I could do this same ritual of putting them to sleep, but when I walk out they would be asleep in their room and our bed would be empty, waiting for us! It was a revelation.



I was the first person I’d known to do “sibling bed.” I bought the bed, set it up in the corner in their room and placed baskets around the edges with various toys and dolls. We loved their bed during the day as a place to hang out and read. The bed was PERFECT for my son’s nap as I could nurse him down and leave him on the bed, or “wear him to sleep” in the sling and easily transfer.

My son never slept in a crib in his life and he never slept alone. I was still night nursing at 9-months, so when he’d awake, usually around midnight, I’d take him back into our bed. And, of course, if my daughter ever awoke we’d welcome her as well. Eventually, I night-weaned my son (at his second birthday) and then he and his sister would sleep the whole night in their bed. Once they were big enough for it to be safe, we bought a loft and placed the mattress on top so they could have more floor space.

Presently, my youngest daughter is 18-months, still in our bed every night, but I know that when we’re ready, the next easy step is the floor-bed. Some people call it “The Nest.”




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Jessica Williams created L.O.V.E. Parenting with a series of techniques for effective communication, deepened connection and more joy in parenting and life. Jessica is also the creator of with the best of today’s progressive parenting experts together in one program. Jessica is a featured expert internationally on both’s Ask An Expert and the upcoming Jessica is a regular contributor to Mothering Magazine’s All Things Mothering, LA Parent Magazine, LA Mom Magazine & DailyBuzzMoms. She has been interviewed on television and radio and taught workshops at family wellness centers, schools and doctor’s offices. Her BirthKit has helped women have a transformational & empowering birth. Jessica maintains a private coaching practice in her native Los Angeles where she lives with her husband and their three children. “Truly amazing woman. I love her advice.”—Carrie-Anne Moss. “All you have shared has helped tremendously.”—Lisa Bonet. “I am experiencing nothing short of a miracle thanks to your laser beam approach.” –Andrea Bendewald.

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