It’s an empirical fact that fathers are comparatively rare in children’s books when economist David A. Anderson and psychologist Mykol Hamilton studied 200 children’s books in 2005, they found that fathers appeared about half as often as mothers. Mothers were ten times more likely to be depicted taking care of babies than fathers and twice as likely to be seen nurturing older children.
No surprise there, of course. Moms are still the ones most likely to be taking care of kids. But where does that leave families who don’t fit the traditional mold? And how does that help parents who want to provide caring role models to their sons?
There are books out there, few and far between, that depict dads as co-parents and primary caregivers. My list is not exhaustive; these are only the ones I can recommend, and there are many titles I found online that I wasnt able to read in real life. And because these kinds of books are so rare, Im willing to bet that there are plenty out there that few people know about.
I look forward to reading your own suggestions!
My list is arranged according to target age, from youngest to oldest:
Mamas Home! By Paul Vos Benkowski, illustrated by Jennifer Herbert (Chronicle Books, 2004; ages 1-3): I bought this board book, which tells the story of a stay-at-home dad and toddler waiting for mom to come home from work, for Liko when I was taking care of him. It turned out to be a genuine comfort for him to read (over and over!) in the hour before his own mom came home from work, and he delighted in the simple, fanciful storyline: Is that Mama? / No, thats not Mama .thats just a pirate ship. Strongly recommended.
Kisses for Daddy, by Frances Watts and David Legge (Little Hare Books, 2005; for ages 1-5, Id say): This is a simple, lightweight picture book with bears, whose title pretty much says it all.
When Bunny Grows Up, by Patricia and Richard Scarry (Golden Books, 1998; ages 1-5): Baby bunny’s family tries to guess what he will be when he grows up–a fireman? a lion tamer? a train conductor? Nuts to all that. Baby bunny wants to be a full-time daddy when he grows up. Originally published in 1955, When Bunny Grows Up was way ahead of its time, and it’s perfect for families with a stay-at-home dad.
The Complete Adventures of Curious George, by Margaret and H.A. Rey (Houghton Mifflin, 1941-1966; ages 1-5): Is the Man with the Yellow Hat the equivalent of Georges father? If not that, Im not sure what he is.
Daddys Lullaby, by Tony Bradman, illustrated by Jason Cockcroft (Margaret K. McElderry Books, 2001; ages 2-5): Dad comes home late from work and sings a lullaby to his baby. A very tender book, which shows a working Dad in a caring role.
My Dad, by Anthony Browne (FSG, 2000; ages 2-5): With one or two lines of text per page, the goofy pictures dominate. Dad (in a bathrobe, PJs, and slippers) engages in various fantastical adventures, from jumping over the moon to singing opera with Pavarotti. Silly and sweet.
A Fathers Song, by Janet Lawler, paintings by Lucy Corvino (Sterling, 2006; ages 3-6): A simple, somewhat solemn verse story about a father and sons day in the park, beautifully illustrated.
Mamas Coming Home, by Kate Banks, pictures by Tomek Bogacki (FSG, 2003; ages 3-6): Similar to Mamas Home (above), a solid and heartfelt portrait of a reverse-traditional family in action. Dad and the kids clean up, cook dinner, and set the table, as a parallel narrative shows Mom trudging through sleeting rain and New York subway stations on her way home from work. Especially recommended.
Knuffle Bunny: A Cautionary Tale, by Mo Willems (Hyperion, 2004; ages 2-6): Why is this story such an instant classic? There’s something about Willems’s tone, pacing, and combination of words and pictures that kids think is tons of fun, and I confess this is one of the books I most look forward to reading to Liko. Don’t miss the sequel, Knuffle Bunny Too. Willems’s daughter shares a name with the protagonist of his books, and these stories feel like mini-memoirs, depicting a dad who shares life with his growing little girl.
My Daddy Can Touch the Moon, by Kori Reed, illustrated by Kendra Reed (Reed Family Books, 2002; ages 2-6): This is part of a series that includes titles like Daddy Does the Dishes and My Daddy is Supersillious, which were all handed to me at the 14th Annual At-Home Dad Convention. The pictures are exceedingly simple and some of the text borders on propagandistic (“We love our special Mom and Dad/who care about our needs”), but my son was thoroughly amused and charmed by these little stories of stay-at-home fatherhood, written by a breadwinning mom and illustrated by her sister. Each book ends with a series of questions that my son and I both enjoy exploring: “What is your favorite Daddy-made meal? What do you like to go with your daddy? What is your Daddy’s favorite book to read to you?” You can order these self-published books on Amazon.
Daddy Calls Me Man, by Angela Johnson, paintings by Rhonda Mitchell (Orchard Books, 1997; ages 3-6): Dad doesnt actually appear until near the end. And yet I think every previous page points to that moment, as a little boy paints a picture of everything thats most important to him.
Papa, Do You Love Me? By Barbara M. Joosse, illustrated by Barbara Lavallee (Chronicle Books, 2005; ages 3-6): A father in a Kenyan village tells his son how much he loves him. This is a lovely book; the images in the words might be even more evocative than those in the pictures.
Tell Me One Thing, Dad, by Tom Pow, illustrated by Ian Andrew (Candlewick Press, 2004; ages 3-7): Dad reads Molly a story, but shes not sleepy yet. She asks to hear one thing he knows about polar bears, crocodiles, and so on; at the end, Molly tells Dad things that she knows about him. This is a gentle, beautifully written, unusually paced, and interestingly illustrated story.
Horton Hatches the Egg, by Dr. Seuss (Random House, 1940; ages 3-7): You probably already know that Dr. Seuss was a genius. Not just a genius, but probably one of the most successful progressive writers of his day. From environmental responsibility (The Lorax) to anti-racism (Sneetches & Other Stories) to resistance to tyranny (Yertle the Turtle & Other Stories), Dr. Seuss could tackle any topic, no matter how terrible, and teach children something about how the world really works in ways that are inspiring and fun. In Horton Hatches the Egg, Dr. Seuss gives us an elephant hero who hatches himself an elephant-bird baby–and in the process, gives children an archetypal model of male caregiving.
And Tango Makes Three, by Peter Parnell and Justin Richardson, illustrated by Henry Cole (Simon & Schuster, 2005; ages 3-7): This picture book tells the somewhat-true story of Roy and Silo, two boy penguins in Central Park Zoo who shacked up together and adopted a baby penguin of their own, named Tango. And Tango Makes Three isnt a boring message book that tries to teach your kids to be tolerant. Its genuinely fun for kids to read.
A Father Like That, by Charlotte Zolotow, illustrated by LeUyen Pham (HarperCollins, 2008; ages 3-7): This picture book is actually about a boy who doesnt have a father, but fantasizes about all the things theyd do together if Dad was around. In the end, his mom assures the boy that while he might never have the dad he wants, he could grow up to be the father he imagines. Yes, its somewhat depressing, and yet I think this could be a great Fathers Day gift for boys who really dont have a dad in the picture. Single moms raising boys, take note.
Finally, for older kids, Id like to mention Danny, Champion of the World, by Roald Dahl, illustrated by Quentin Blake (Knopf, 1975; ages 8-12): When I was four months old, my mother died suddenly and my father was left to look after me all by himself, says the narrator, Danny. There was just the two of us, my father and me. This is a beautifully told, amusingly imaginative, politically radical, and profoundly emotional tale of a sons devotion to his father and a fathers devotion to his son. I read this out loud to my 3 year old. He followed the story and liked the characters and incidents, especially the bit when 9-year-old Danny drives a car. However, the plot is driven by the fathers desire to poach a rich mans pheasants, which was too far outside of Likos experience for him to find it interesting. But this book is an outlaw classic that older kids (boys especially) may find evocative and thrilling.
I update this list every year. If you’re looking for books to buy, you might also take a look at my family’s list of most-loved children’s books.