What is Leading the Way?

what is leading the way? not letting them take control of the home of our lives and not letting them do all they want, also not controling them and yes letting them free, but leading the way. How to know we are doing the good thing? And do you have exemples of leading the way? Thanks a lot! Mom of 4.

Dear Parent:

I’m not sure what you mean by “leading the way”. I have not heard of the term.  I know that children need to have unlimited expressions of their feelings and be able to feel all of them, negative and positive.  However, children have limits on their behaviours.  When their actions intrude on the rights and comforts of others, we need to gently let them know and show them how to act differently.  We lead the way by modeling, which is one of the most powerful ways to teach children.  It’s quiet, unassuming and very respectful.  We show our children how to deal with anger when we express our anger carefully.  We show our children how to be responsible when we honour our commitments to them and others.  We show our children how to be caring, when we comfort our friends and our family.  In many ways, we lead the way.  You are leading the way everyday that you spend with your children.  Be the best person you can be, and you will lead!


Judy Arnall

Parenting speaker, educator and Founder Attachment Parenting Canada Association


Author of the Canadian Bestseller, “Discipline Without Distress: 135 Tools for Raising Caring, Responsible Children Without Time-Out, Spanking, Punishment or Bribery”