Children Hitting Mother

Dear Parent,

When children are content and clear they don’t hurt anyone. Your daughter has a valid reason to kick. You must find out why she must kick and how her kicking is her innocent way of taking care of herself. When you read to your older child, she is most likely feeling left out. In each situations, the reason may be different. Stopping the kicking without addressing the valid cause is indeed futile.

Please check this response of mine to a similar question:

http://www.mothering.com/pinching 

In addition check my responses about aggression and siblings. There are almost 140 answers of mine on the site and a few of them are about your question. 

Screaming or being aggressive is the way your children learn to do the same. It has nothing to do with clarity. On the contrary, when you are clear, you will find gentle ways to take care of things. Aggressive tone comes from you not being clear and from not feeling connected to your children.

It seems to me that you need more guidance than a simple answer can provide. If you don’t know how to be clear or how to connect and understand the child, most likely the issue is with you, relating to your childhood, self-image and other habitual perceptions. I suggest that you book yourself a phone session by signing up here: http://naomialdort.com/guidance.html

Warmly, Naomi Aldort http://AuthenticParent.com