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Apologize, Forgive, Release: Drawing for Free CD


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Mothering is hard work. Relationships are hard work. Sometimes, you want to wash the slate clean. The following process is an emotional shower and can be applied as often as needed. You can do the exercise as a written entry in a journal set aside for this purpose, or you can do this as a spoken exercise. This exercise involves stringing a series of sentences together; first, “I apologize or I’m sorry,” next, “I forgive,” and finally, “I let go,” or “I release.”


Apologize, Forgive, Release


Start with apology. Think about the areas of tension with your children and think about what you would like to apologize for. Maybe you couldn’t figure out how to give your baby what s/he needed. Maybe you left when you didn’t want to. Maybe you said “no” too quickly. Maybe you raised your voice. Maybe you were distracted and let the day go by without giving your child the attention s/he needed. Inhale, and starting with apology, begin: “I am sorry for…”


Next we work with forgiveness. You will write or say a string of sentences starting with “I forgive.” You may say, “I forgive myself,” “I forgive my partner,” “I forgive my child,” “I forgive my body,” “I forgive my relatives,” or whatever else resonates with you. You may forgive for specific experiences or you may forgive in general. Inhale and begin now: “I forgive…”


Finally, we will release the emotional tension from your experiences.You want to let of the holding in your physical and emotional body; the tension in your face, the grip of fear, the lock of regret and the power of guilt. You will begin every sentence with “I let go,” or “I release.” Inhale, and begin: “I release…”


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Do this process of Apologize, Forgive, Release each evening, or at least once a week. You will feel lighter and clearer. Be generous with yourself. Model accountability coupled with empathy for yourself and your whole family will benefit.


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Mothering Mommas: try out some “Apologize, Forgive, Release” statements in the comments section. I will put the names in a hat and pick one and send that person a complimentary L.O.V.E. Parenting Technique CD: Technique, Affirmation & Visualization. It contains a guided meditation, tools, techniques, affirmations and visualizations.


Love,


Jessica


Private coaching in Los Angles & skype. Two workshops in October. www.LoveParentingLA.com

Private coaching in Los Angles & skype. Two workshops in October. www.LoveParentingLA.com



Jessica Williams

About Jessica Williams

Jessica Williams created L.O.V.E. Parenting with a series of techniques for effective communication, deepened connection and more joy in parenting and life. Jessica is also the creator of www.UltimateParentingCourse.com with the best of today's progressive parenting experts together in one program. Jessica is a featured expert internationally on both Mothering.com’s Ask An Expert and the upcoming www.KidsInTheHouse.com. Jessica is a regular contributor to Mothering Magazine’s All Things Mothering, LA Parent Magazine, LA Mom Magazine & DailyBuzzMoms. She has been interviewed on television and radio and taught workshops at family wellness centers, schools and doctor’s offices. Her BirthKit has helped women have a transformational & empowering birth. Jessica maintains a private coaching practice in her native Los Angeles where she lives with her husband and their three children. “Truly amazing woman. I love her advice.”—Carrie-Anne Moss. “All you have shared has helped tremendously.”—Lisa Bonet. “I am experiencing nothing short of a miracle thanks to your laser beam approach.” –Andrea Bendewald.



Comments (25)

I am sorry for leaving you when you were crying and I had to go to work yesterday. I forgive my mom for not being here to ask all the questions I have about being a mom. I let go of the guilt for being a working mom.
I am sorry I wasn't home last night to play with you, have dinner, and help you go to sleep. I forgive myself for putting grad school off so long that it interferes with our time now. I let go of the pressure to be a perfect mom, I am doing the best I can.
I am sorry that I didn't take care of my diet and nutrition as well as I should have in the first few precious moments of ur life when u solely depended on me to grow strong and healthy. I forgive your dad for making me feel depressed during those times that I didn't eat and stressed you out about ur future with us. I release the guilt I feel when the Dr. insists that you are too skinny and your tummy is small now. You are perfect and we are perfect for each other. We were made for each other.
I'm sorry for not giving you my full attention at times during the day. I forgive myself for not doing everything right all the time. I let go of my expectations of achieving perfection.
I'm sorry for having raised my voice and having been so impatient. I forgive myself for having to try to do better so often. I let go of all the high expectations I put on myself when it comes to parenting.
i am sorry to make you wait while i helped ptso for 20 minutes afterschool, i know you like your routines. i forgive myself for not listening more carefully. i let go of all the things that no longer serve us as a family. we start in this moment to work co-creatively to get all our needs met.
I'm sorry for raising my voice when I am frustrated. I forgive myself for not being a "perfect" mama and I let go of the guilt that goes along with feeling I've failed at being the "perfect" mama. Every day is a new day and I love you more than words can express.
I'm sorry I react so quickly sometimes and yell and scare you. I forgive myself for forgetting to play with you. I let go of beating myself up for my failures. And I must add some positives: I love you so much. I am so happy when we spend time together and express our feelings and thoughts honestly. I am so honored to be the one to introduce you to the world. You help me be a better person.
I am sorry for not listening the first time. I forgive myself for feeling blue when I want to be optimistic. I release the anxiety to make room for more faith and love.
I'm sorry for those time-outs I put you on. I forgive your father for pressuring me to punish you for developmentally appropriate behavior, at a time when I was particularly vulnerable and in need of support. I forgive myself for giving into that pressure. I release the resentment and blame I feel towards him when I think about those times. I release the guilt I feel at having been too weak, exhausted, and uncertain to protect and nurture you the way I wish I had.
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I am sorry that I am not the perfect mother. I am sorry that my teenage boys think I am such an idiot, even tho I am doing my best. I am sorry that I have rules in my home. I am sorry that I am not appreciated. I am thankful that God loves me and forgives me and has a home for me in Heaven.
I am sorry that today was boring, I am so tired and worn out from the baby. I forgive you for not always being cooperative, I know you are just being three. I release the need to read, know, and follow every rule to being a good mother. I need to just follow my instincts!
I am sorry that I am not always present for you.I forgive myself for being a single mother and not having a "whole family" for you.I let go of the ideals that society places on us and except us for who we are.
I am sorry that I lost my temper so many times today and yelled at you. I forgive you for being tired, cranky and uncooperative. I release my resentment toward you and your father.
I am sorry that I get upset with you so quickly. I forgive myself for yelling at you today. I let go of the anger I hold for not being able to spend as much time with you as I wish I could.
Mothering Mommas, I posted this morning and then I left the house and was off the grid with no cell or email all day. I just returned and am reading your comments and I am so touched by your sharing and feeling our collective experience. I will write down each of your names and put in a hat and pull one out and then I will post that person's name for you to email your address for me to mail the CD. With much respect, Jessica
Barbara, Next weeks follow up L.O.V.E. Parenting process is "Celebrate, Welcome, Intend." You got it! Love, Jessica
Catherine, You are so sweet! Thank you for visiting www.LoveParentingLA.com. Email me: loveparentingla@gmail.com. Love, Jessica
I apologize for being short-tempered and too tired so often. I forgive my husband for not always being there for me and you. I release the guilt I harbor for my depression and missed opportunities to nurture you.
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