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As a Mother: my Mother's Day wish



Goodness, I’m already tired of seeing and reading about the cover. You know the one, right? I don’t really have to show you again, do I?


I don’t know many mothers that feel supported by that photo. Actually, it feels more like making fun of, accusing, and belittling all mothers, not simply those who choose to practice extended breastfeeding. This photo, with its accusatory headline is laughing at all mothers:


“Are you mother enough?”


And the thing is, most people won’t even bother reading the article. They’ll make uneducated judgements against breastfeeding mothers based on fear and ignorance.


Mothering is the hardest job many of us will ever experience and the last thing we need is to be ridiculed in the mainstream media by an organization that just wants to profit from the controversy. Watching the fallout in the media the last few days has been sickening. It’s especially disturbing to see mothers attacking one another for their personal parenting choices.


Mothers attacking mothers – Is this what we’ve come to? How is it that judgement is so easy to hand out? Where is our empathy? Where is our solidarity? Everyday mothers make choices with the intent of parenting as well as they can. We have different resources, different guiding principles and different approaches, but the end goal is the same: we all want to raise happy, well-adjusted, thriving people.


It’s time for a new set of tools. It’s time for a change in how we interact. I’m ready. Are you in?


For Mother’s day, I wish…


  • that as mothers, we stand up to support other mothers

  • that as mothers, we have the freedom to chose what is best for our own family

  • that as mothers, we feel supported and find access to the resources we need

  • that as mothers, we stop judging what we don’t understand

  • that as mothers, we stop comparing ourselves to other mothers

  • that as mothers, we collectively honor all mothers on their journey

  • that as mothers, we all ask ourselves: what are we doing to cultivate peace? then act on it

  • that as mothers, we come to believe that Yes, we are indeed mother enough

Wishing you all a day of love. May Mother’s day find you surrounded by your own supportive, nurturing village.



And join the conversation: what would you put on your wish list?



Lisa Coffee

About Lisa Coffee

I'm a crafting, gardening, homebirthing, Colorado Mama with a two year old named Zinnia and baby number two (affectionately known as Turnip) due this fall. As a family we strive to live close to the earth and her seasons and my best days are spent gardening the heck out of our quarter-acre backyard, making homemade meals and planning our family's next big adventure. I'm especially fond of a good Mojito happy hour and I have a weakness for far-too-expensive jeans, but those luxuries sing of life before motherhood. These days, when I'm not stripping cloth diapers or cleaning up after another toddler shenanigan, I can be found barefoot in the garden, at my sewing table, or heading for the hills in the Big White Van. Join me daily, as I share snippets from the good life at littlecoffeebeans.com .



Comments (10)

Amen! Beautiful piece! If you are looking for empathy and solidarity, I invite you to join The Mom Pledge Community! http://themompledge.com We'd be proud to have you! Happy Mother's Day!
This is so beautifully stated! We moms really do need to stick together and support each other!
Thanks for reading along Aimee. Happy mother's day to you!
Thanks Elizabeth. Heading over to check you out!
The photo says it all. Love it! We learn our parenting skills by modelling on how we ourselves were brought up and from other moms. That's why I regard mother's groups and support of any sort for mothers to be so very important, otherwise we as parents are just "doin' the same o'l thing" - that is parenting by repeating what our own parents did. Times have moved on and we all need to better our skills by learning from others. Absolutely yes - we moms need to support each other. I hope all you wonderful mothers had a fabulous Mother's Day!
Killara, you've got it! Thanks for doing your part to spread the love and support that all mamas need.
Fantastic article Lisa! I agree, it is better to empathize than to judge others mamas. I love your wishes and add my wish for Mothers Day: May all mothers have the opportunity to express their mothering in an artistic way. Peace, SarahKate
SarahKate, Yes! Thanks for contributing to the list and to making Mama's more beautiful with your art!
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