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Baby Fever: 5 Fun Ways to Tell Your Partner That You're Ready for Another Baby

 

Please note: This article is intended to be humorous so please read it with that in mind. 

 

People often think that half the fun of having children is actually...making them. But in reality, for many of us, we first have to CONVINCE dad that another baby is a good idea. You can find countless ideas online about announcing your pregnancy, but not so many about how to convince (cajole, trick, persuade, etc) your partner that it is actually time to start trying again. 

 

So, for your reading pleasure, here are a few tips for getting the guy on board with making baby number two (or three, or four, or five...)

 

Tip 1: Make PMS Your Enemy

Sometimes all it takes to convince your partner that it is time to have another baby is a complete PMS freak out. If he comes home to you bloated, eating bonbons and weeping to the Hallmark Channel while chocolate drips down your face, the idea of those nine months without Aunt Flo just sounds that much more tempting. 

 

 

 

 

Tip 2: Hint, Hint

Now if subtlety isn't your thing, you can always invest in a briefcase full of pregnancy tests. When your main man opens the medicine cabinet and 50 plastic sticks that scream “Pee On ME!” come crashing into the sink...let's just say it sends a message. 

 

 

 

 

 

Tip 3: Do Your Best June Cleaver Impression

I don't know about you, but I am a liberated, modern woman. I can't remember the last time I wore heels to vacuum and I have never owned a string of pearls. Still, I have a feeling that embracing some of the traits of that forever famous housewife might be just the trick if you want to convince your squeeze that it is time to try again for a baby. Imagine it...

 

“Why am I cleaning with fresh lipstick and a pencil skirt and perfect hair? Well, because I just love you honey! Sit down and read the paper while I grab you a cup of warm milk. Then tell me about your day! I love your voice.”

 

Most everybody secretly loves being waited on and receiving over the top compliments.You. Are. Welcome.

 

Tip 4: Feel Pretty

Then again, another clever approach is the confident woman scheme. Don't worry about your stretch marks or leaking milk - you are sexy and he wants you! Invest in some cute (or tacky) underwear, remind yourself that you've still “got it” and remind him too. Sometimes when we are watching our kids all day we forget the many other aspects of our personality (and our relationship!)

 

 

Tip 5: Be Honest

I know it doesn't sound that exciting, risqué or even clever, but there is always the old reliable approach we like to call “communication.” Sometimes the best answer is the most straightforward one where you just act like a grown up and say, “I think I am ready to have another baby. What about you?!”

 

(I am not going to tell you what to do, but the honest conversation might be more likely to get you the answer you want if you employ a combination of tips one through four – i.e. pearls, lipstick, push-up bra and a box of pregnancy tests can really help a lady get what she wants.)

 

When it comes down to it, choosing when to add another life to yours is a decision both sacred and monumental. But that doesn't mean you can't have a little fun with it. Good luck in your quest and don't forget to enjoy the trip!

 

 

Sarah Clark is a mother of four. She isn't near as wise as she sometimes thinks she is. She teaches natural birth classes in Sonoma County, trains natural birth teachers for Birth Boot Camp, and blogs about mothering and natural birth at mamabirth.blogspot.com.

 

 

 

 

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I would add persistence and patience to the list. The true test to determine whether you have baby fever or really want to add a member to your family is TIME. This was where I was at a year ago http://hvparent.com/articlepost.aspx?id=733&c=0&t=BLOGPOST and after so many conversations over the past year and many many prayers, my husband FINALLY said let's do it. So let the true journey begin, and no worries I will definitely enjoy the getting there part.
I wholeheartedly agree with you HeatherMarieS! But I think this article was not meant to be taken too seriously. It's a light-hearted piece, one that shows that positioning yourself and the relationship in a playful behavior can help problem-solve, bring partners closer when they end up taking each other for granted from the daily grind, and potentially even open up the door for that conversation that was either avoided or postponed. Ridiculousness, playfulness (maybe even role-playing) can lead to important decision-making if you are able to break the ice and the rules. (I'd probably shop around for cute baby clothes, "just to have them in case...":P ) 
My method when I was ready was to make HIM responsible for birth control.
I would love to have another baby and the only thing stopping me is the reality of the cost of raising an additional child, I have two boys already and it's great that they can now dress themselves and be a little self sufficient making it easier to now have another baby, but it's just so expensive. This was a really cute article, i wish it went on further!
for me it was the opposite. I was the one trying to be convinced of having another baby. We both wanted another one and had originally planned to have one, but when the time came to decide to get pregnant again, I couldn't do it. I couldn't handle the thought of terrible morning sickness for the next 5-6 months! Then, I had, what we thought was, an early miscarriage and I felt the sickness, and the early "labor-like" pain and then in the end, thought it was all a short moment, there was no baby. This was what I needed for me to humble myself enough to let go of my fears and say "I can do it" It's worth all the heart-ache, all the physical ache too. As I was going through my experience I became very humbled, turned to the one I know as God and plead for a change of heart because I knew it was the right thing for us to be inviting another child into our home. 
Cute! :) I could add one: Talk about your expectant friends - "Oh, I talked to Lisa today, she's due any day now. And Regan is expecting #4 at the end of December. She's having another girl - I'm so happy for them! Doesn't it make you miss when our babies were little?"
 
DH & I recently had this conversation, after a birth control flub that we thought resulted in PG. Either it didn't, or I had an early miscarriage...either way, we were both so disappointed and I was grieving as if it was a true loss. So logic notwithstanding, we decided the right thing for our family is to try again for #4! I guess sometimes, for moms AND dads, just thinking about having another baby is enough to get you wanting one. :)
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