Being Authentic With Our Kids

Yes! You are quite right about this. There have been times when I've been stressed and overreacted / overpunished when my kids were toddlers. Especially with the first one (they say you make the most mistakes with your first.) I also have a tendency to put the needs or wants of other adults before those of my kids', out of consideration. I'm working on being a bit more assertive for my children's sake. If a doctor is a bit too forceful and/or impatient with my kids, for example, I might consider changing doctors.

I get the sentiment the author is conveying here, but am not convinced that particular story is a good example. Just a couple of days ago, I was in an almost identical scenario except it was my daughter and her ears. AND the doctor was a French doctor (their bedside manner is vile generally). He picked and prodded at her ears to pull the wax out that was obstructing his ability to look inside to ensure there was an infection. She wailed and writhed in agony. This was one of the times I had to trust that someone else did have her best interest in mind and that took more strength than to say stop that.

I have always focused on connection parenting, and I have a 3 year old and 1 year old. My 1 year old has a condition that requires tons of interventions including casting on both legs, x rays, frequent ultrasounds and blood draws.
My first daughter was almost never sick, has only had meds twice in her life (abx one time for three days, motrin - 2 doses ever). We are dedicated to natural health, chiropractic, and healing through lifestyle and diet.
And I feel this article is missing a big part of what connection parenting means to me and a lot of other special needs families I know.
Sometimes, our kids need medical care. It is our jobs as parents to show them they are safe. That the intervention, even if it causes discomfort or even pain, is safe. It's great to apologize for your mistakes, but it is really difficult to go through life being afraid of medical treatment and doctors. Showing our kids that these people are trying to help, telling them, "I hear you don't like this, it doesn't feel good, your body hurts, but you are safe, it will be over soon, you can do this" gives them the option to feel safe.
I may be wrong - this is just how I approach it. Of course I'd rather not have any medical interventions of any kind with my daughter. However, she would never walk without severe pain and probably would've died at least once without them.
Bodily autonomy is vastly important. It is at the forefront of my mind in most of my parenting choices. But there is also the general feeling of trust and safety. If I were a child, and my parent were distressed and afraid during necessary medical treatment, I would have more anxiety. If they were calm, confident, and listened, I might be able to face the challenge feeling supported and loved.
Again, I'm not saying the author is wrong. Her feelings are totally valid. I just have a different experience that I thought worth mentioning.