- Slavishly devoted to nursing my son???
- I am ‘slavishly devoting literally’ my ‘entire daily life’ to ‘nursing and nurturing’ my son. I have no life outside of this.
These are preposterous, misinformed views. You need to find out a little about nursing toddlers and pre-schoolers before making such statements. Then you would know that as children grow up they nurse less and less. This makes it entirely possible for nursing mothers to spend huge amounts of the day and/or night away from their children if this is what they desire. Even when we are with our nurslings, we spend a lot of time NOT nursing them, just as any non-nursing mother would.
Please, also dpend a little time with a nursing mother to see the amount of tasks she completes without her child. It is entirely possible to work full or part-time and practice sustained breastfeeding. How is it that I am such an active person leading a fulfilled life, if I am breastfeeding my son? My life is filled with writing part time, with yoga, running, cooking, cleaning, running a household and caring for my son and husband, going out with my friends and family, reading, going on the internet, speaking on the telephone, travelling in the UK and abroad. Breastfeeding is far from a slavish devotion in my life.
I chose to put my career on hold before my son was born; this decision had very little to do with nursing him, more to do with financial security without a second wage as well as the desire to be with my child as much as possible in the early years.
Please, spend a little time with my son to get a feel of how his days are. He does not choose to feed for very long or very frequently, he is busy discovering the world, exploring as all toddlers are, secure in the knowledge he can return to me for nourishment and nurturing when it fits into both of our routines.
- I spend my days ‘just sit[ting] around on the couch or on the floor playing with’ my son. I have given up my ‘career to breastfeed and slavishly devote every minute of [my] day to physically touching’ him.
This could not be further from the truth. I am an active person who rarely sits down unless it is necessary. Nursing takes up such a small part of my day. Ewan and I do a lot of activities together, but the majority of these are simple tasks which I do everyday which Ewan follows, observes or imitates, such as gardening, cooking or hanging up the washing. We rarely find time to simply play on the floor together. To say that as an attachment parent I spend my entire days touching my son is absurd. This is a simplistic, offensive and stereotyped view which has no bearing in reality. Parents who practice attachment parenting are just parents; we are as varied as any other group of people.
Even when I am nursing we can still do other tasks. I can write, read, speak on the phone and use the internet, when feeding. I carry Ewan in a sling and do basic household tasks, or go for walks, whilst feeding him. I am not chained to the sofa at home, but am out and about, or I am at home getting on with life, whilst feeding him. Or I choose to actually have a sit down and take a well needed breather whilst he nurses. Or I sit in the sunshine and relax for a few minutes, something we all need to do from time to time.
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About Caroline Jane Cole
I am a full-time Mum to Ewan James, born in June 2010. When I get chance, I write on natural parenting issues, on topics including sustained breastfeeding, baby-wearing, bed-sharing, home-education and natural living, for parenting magazines and websites. I am an active member of La Leche League GB and a trained breastfeeding peer supporter. See my website; www.stoneageparenting.com.