(Contributed by Mothering.com writer Sarah Clark)
Happy New Year mamas! If you are like most people the new year
makes you think a little about trying a little harder and being a little better. And if you are like most mother's then that always leads back to the home, and children, and motherhood.
Here are a few easy tips for you to help improve yourself- and your family- in this next New Year.
~ Take a breath ~
It's amazing how much difference it can make to simply BREATHE when life gets
hard. When I teach women in birth classes how to relax I always talk about breathing. Not special, patterned or difficult breathing. No- just remembering your own body and it's normal, natural, relaxing, deep breathing.
Roll back your shoulders. Relax your abdomen. Open your mouth. Breathe deep. Breathe DOWN. Down to your belly, not high in your chest. In and out. In and out. In and out.
Just three deep abdominal breaths can help you re-set, re-vitalize, and find the patience you were just about to lose.
Taking a breath is a gift for yourself and your family.
~ Take a moment ~
Feeling tired? Overwhelmed? Unappreciated? Last on the list?
Most mom's DO feel like that every once in a while. And while we give a lot of lip service to the importance of motherhood, we sure don't seem to actually value it or the real work that it involves.
So take a moment. For yourself.
Go shopping. Take a nap. Paint your nails. Get a facial. Take a shower. Take a bath. Read a book. Call a friend. Go on a walk. Pick some flowers.
There are a million little free things that you can do for yourself that only take a moment. But they will recharge and refresh you so that you can feel better and BE better. You don't have to be selfish to do a little something for yourself every now and again.
And you don't have to be that smart to see that this is a game plan that benefits the entire family.
~ Take a compliment ~
Oh- this is a hard one. Accepting a compliment.
"You're a good mother." "Your kids are so wonderful!" "You look beautiful today." "I love your smile."
How often do we actually just TAKE a compliment and not argue with or dismiss it?
A simple New Year's resolution? Accept them. Open your arms and your heart and embrace the good that people send you. Don't question it. Don't wonder if they mean it. Don't think about the stuff you do that they don't know about. Just drink it in.
And don't forget- those hugs and kisses and kind words from your favorite little people- those are compliments too. Take a minute and embrace those. You'll be amazed at how much better you will feel and how much lighter the load you bear will be.
Happy New Year mama's! I hope you can take a moment with me this year and accept a little more goodness, a few more moments, and lot more deep breaths.
Thinking of you-
Sarah Clark is a mother of four, a childbirth educator, a writer and an avid natural birth blogger. You can find her at mamabirthblog.com or taking a run around the block before anybody notices, but after breakfast is on the table. She lives in California but travels to Dallas to train natural childbirth teachers for Birth Boot Camp.