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More Misses Than Catches


Christine Gross-Loh, a mother of four and the author of The Diaper Free Baby, will be stopping by my blog this week.


Gross-Loh is an expert on infant pottying, a.k.a. Elimination Communication (EC), and I have about a million questions to ask her.


I feel like the baby and I haven’t been doing very well with EC the past few days. I think it’s because I had the hubris to brag about her only wetting one diaper all day.


Though I catch almost all the poops, I’ve been finding it hard to know when Leone has to go pee.


Either that, or there’s no bathroom nearby.


Take today, for instance. Leone and I took her 10-year-old sister Hesperus shopping at Justice. Hesperus loves Justice. She can spend all day at the mall. I would rather have Swine Flu than go to the mall but Hesperus’s grandfather bought her a gift certificate and I thought it would be a nice way to spend some time together and celebrate Valentine’s Day.


Leone came along. She slept in the front carrier a lot of the time. Then she woke up and squirmed and fussed. I suspected she needed to go pee but we were in full trying-on-shirts mode and the nearest bathroom was down a flight of stairs, past half a dozen shops, at the end of the corridor. Feeling guilty but not knowing what else to do, I ignored the signals she was giving me. When she complained a bit longer I put her on the chair in the dressing room and checked her diaper. Wet. I changed it.


Squirm-cry #2 = same problem of no nearby potty = wet diaper #2. I changed it.


Squirm-cry #3 = wet diaper #3. I changed it.


On the way home I had no more diapers so I put a washcloth under her while she sat in the car seat.


At one point during the ride home she squirmed and cried.


“What’s wrong Baby?” Hesperus, who was sitting in the back seat with her, asked.


Sure enough, the washcloth was wet when we got home.


I feel discouraged. I don’t think it qualifies as good communication if I know when the baby need*ED* to go after she’s already gone.


The day’s tallies: 1 caught (rather stinky) poop this morning, about 9 wet diapers throughout the day, 1 explosive missed pee in the kitchen (oops) when James was holding her, 1 caught pee before bedtime.


That will teach me to brag.


Related posts:
Misses and Catches
Only One Wet Diaper
Morning Diary of Baby Leone at Two Months
More on Infant Pottying
The Incredible Pooping Baby; or, Leone Uses Her Chamber Pot




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Tags: EC, elimination communication, infant care, infant pottying, shopping with a 10-year-old, the mall, wet diapers





Comments (6)

Wow! What a fabulous guest! Please pass along her answers to your questions. I have the same issues, and I feel so guilty when there just isn't a toilet nearby, or when we just don't make it in time. I've also been wondering how long it takes most babies to learn the cue word/sound (mine is 3 months old). You may know from her book, but does Ms. Gross-Loh prefer using a cueing sound versus a word, or is either equally effective? Just wondering if we should start using a sound in addition to our cueing word, and when that will work. So far, just the hold seems to cue my little one. Have a wonderful visit, and as always, thank you for covering your experiences ECing! .-= Mama Em´s last blog ..To Tye, With Love, at 3 months =-.
I think it's great that you can tell what she needs and why she's squirming. With mine, whenever she squirmed, I would panic and whip out my nipple. Who knew she was just peeing? .-= Alisa Bowman´s last blog ..The Oddest Communication Advice You’ll Ever Read =-.
I was wondering whether there are any studies available on adults who went diaper-less as babies. Surely some hippy moms must have tried this, too? .-= Alexandra´s last blog ..The Innkeeper, the Pragmatist & the Return Guest =-.
Mama Em, I recently read Christine's book and then passed it along to a friend so I can't go back and check to be sure but I think she suggests that you use the sound or word that works best for you and feels the most natural. Our conversation, in the form of a nice long juicy Q & A, will be up this week (but first you have to get through tomorrow's rant about a new study that shows that American kids spend MORE THAN SEVEN HOURS using media entertainment A DAY) and Christine will be available to answer questions in the comment section so please stay tuned. My baby, too, seems to respond just by being held in position. Lately I've been waiting for her to pee BEFORE making the cueing sound as I don't like trying to cue her and having it not work because then I feel like she's not learning the association somehow... .-= Jennifer Margulis´s last blog ..Two New Travel Articles: Everything you want to know about kids and airport security =-.
I don't know of any studies, Alexandra, but I haven't looked into it extensively. There have been large numbers of moms in America and around the world who have had their babies essentially diaper free from birth. It would be a fascinating study to conduct. I'd like to see someone do it! .-= Jennifer Margulis´s last blog ..Two New Travel Articles: Everything you want to know about kids and airport security =-.
I've been only making the cueing sound when she eliminates, not every time I hold her, in hopes that she would learn the connection, and now I'm just wondering when she'll respond to the cueing sound. Also, I went back to Diaper Free! by Ingrid Bauer and she wrote that when her son needed to eliminate and they weren't around a toilet/appropriate location (and he was wearing a diaper), she would hold him in his eliminating position and make the appropriate cueing sound and explain to him that it was okay to go in his diaper. Then she changed him right away. That method makes sense to me because there's still a response to the child's needs. Just thought I would share since you mentioned being caught in similar situations. .-= Mama Em´s last blog ..Feet =-.
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