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On School Starting So Soon


It took our family a long time to transition into summer. Now that we’ve finally settled into a rhythm to our days, summer is winding down. The tomatoes are ripening on the vine, the air is cooling off at night, the university students are coming back, and it’s almost time for the kids to go back to school.


In the meantime, Bill Clinton just celebrated his 64th birthday, Dr. Laura dropped the N-word bomb eleven times and is now resigning from radio (true confession: when I worked as an ESL teacher in Atlanta and commuted from Little Five Points to Buford Highway I listened to Dr. Laura every day. And I loved it. We don’t agree on anything, she and I, but I appreciate her insight, her brutal honesty, and the way she insists callers take responsibility for their own lives. Another true confession: I like to play blackjack and drink rye), and Julia Roberts has starred in the worst movie adaption of a book I’ve seen since “Under the Tuscan Sun” (remember how badly done that one was? Spend your money on “The Kids Are All Right” and skip “Eat Pray Love.”)


Baby Leone, with her pudgy belly and four-toothed smile, is a little Buddha in our lives spreading kindness and goodwill. She pats my back with her open palm as I carry her through town. We walk by strangers who are hurrying along in their busy, lonely, stressful lives. Their faces suddenly lighten as Leone babbles her hellos. Even the gas station attendant, surreptitiously smoking a fag, fingernails cracked and hands stained with grease, smiles at Leone.


She tolerates all our kisses with good humor and a bemused look. Her skin is so soft and she smells so sweet that I wish I could bottle her essence. My friend Jenny just had a baby and her little guy is so tiny, a warm bundle with dark serious eyes. Next to him Leone is a titan.


Maybe the best way to accept change is to stay in the moment, to inhale the smell of my youngest daughter without worrying that one day soon, like her 11-year-old sister, she might shrug off my hugs.


And to enjoy the other kids exactly where they’re at: my 6-year-old in all his rowdy affection eager to play with kids his own age but shy about meeting new people, delighted to be read to but adamant that he is not going to learn to read; my 9-year-old fledgling who studies her face in the mirror and asks me if she’s pretty, bikes the mile to her “job” as a junior counselor by herself, and sneaks off to her room to read when there are too many people in the house; and my graceful, self-possessed, detail-oriented firstborn whose consideration towards other is matched by her lack of consideration towards me.


I am spoiled by sunshine. I dread the cold and the dark that comes with winter. Instead of worrying that school is starting so soon, though, I will try to just be where I am right now and savor these last days of summer.




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Comments (16)

Lovely post, Jennifer. Stay in the moment. It is all you've got. .-= Frugal Kiwi´s last blog ..DIY Clean Green Oven Cleaner =-.
Oh, this was beautiful. It made tears well up in my eyes. I especially liked the images of Leone spreading good will and peace. .-= Alexandra´s last blog ..Where Tradition &amp Organic Choice Meet =-.
I feel like I just took a very deep breath. Thanks for posting this beautiful and thoughtful piece, Jennifer! .-= Sheryl´s last blog ..Seven Great Ways to Deal With Anger =-.
Life moves so quickly, doesn't it? So sweet to read some thoughts of deliberately finding the moments in the rushing seasons.
I think of September as the beginning of the year, not January. There's so much about the start of school I like--more predictable schedules, walking together to school, even doing homework together. But I'll be bummed when we can't spend the afternoons together at the pool or the lake. .-= MyKidsEatSquid´s last blog ..Giveaway–Revolution Foods Organic School Snack Sampler =-.
Ah, back to school. It's hard for me to believe how quickly those back-to-school years went with our kids. I won't lie - I was ready for them to get back to class (!) but we had such fun school shopping and doing all the getting-ready-to-go fun stuff. .-= Merr´s last blog ..The Journal Diaries Begin- Stephanie Stiavetti =-.
I love fall and the start of the school year. Fall is my special sacred time of year. This year my son is in preschool and I am finishing up my masters. Fall means new beginnings to me.
My true confession,,, I love watching "Under the Tuscan Sun"!
True confession: I don't even know what rye is, other than something in American Pie. Lovely peaceful post. .-= Kris Bordessa´s last blog ..Making Tapa Cloth =-.
Thanks for the link love, Jennifer, re the disappointment that is the movie version of Eat, Pray, Love. I've been heartened by the interesting discussion it has generated at least. As for the end of summer...Sept. certainly does feel like the start of the year to me too, as another reader mentioned. And, like you, I dread the dark of winter. But for now, I have one last little trip -- tomorrow -- with my son, where we'll get in all kinds of water play: kayaking, tubing, swimming and the like with friends before the school year begins on Sept. 1. Since my boy is off to middle school I'm starting to feel like I need to hold my breath or his childhood will be over before I know it. .-= sarah henry´s last blog ..Berkeley Bites- Tu David Phu- Saul’s Delicatessen =-.
I always really mourn the end of summer. It seems so sad to me. Then the kids head back to school that first morning and I get to be ALONE in my own HOUSE and it's just totally delicious. So there's that.
Rye is a whiskey made from the same rye grain used for rye bread (sans caraway seeds), about half-and-half with corn plus a bit of barley to aid fermentation. It's less sweet than bourbon (almost all corn), with a sharp dry tang to it. It was standard in Americans' home bars in the early 20th c.; now you find it mostly in old 'noir' detective stories.
Jennifer -- This is such a wonderful post. Beautifully written, moving. I just loved it. .-= Ruth Pennebaker´s last blog ..Loosening the Surly Bonds =-.
It's hard to transition. I feel like you--just when we get in the groove it's over. I also feel like you and while I'm grateful they're growing up and things in some ways are easier, it's hard to leave behind the little ones that smiled just because we entered the room. .-= Claudine´s last blog ..What Kind of Doctor Are You =-.
Yeah--it's all good right where it is! .-= Alisa Bowman´s last blog ..What’s Your Marriage Secret =-.
It was a beautiful post--and it made me cry. I actually worry about my reluctance--almost a refusal--to give summer up. The moving forward-my eldest heading off for a gap year adventure, my middle child a junior! and my youngest, after years of homeschooling, off to 6th grade because she wants more than I have offered lately. As a single mother who often seems to struggle through winter, I dread it. I want summer 9 months a year!
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