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Raising Natural Kids in a High-Tech World



I imagine it has always been difficult raising natural kids. I imagine it’s never been easy to hop onto the natural train, doing things that go against the grain of society. It seems in our world, we’re always trying to find a new and better, easier, albeit not always right, way of doing things. It seems we have flowed back and forth, to and fro, a natural lifestyle. I have to believe mothers have been fighting their children’s interest in the latest gadgets for years upon years, including the radio and then the early tv’s. My generation has seen the tv’s advance, become leaner, thinner, more efficient. We have seen gaming systems go from new to high tech to interactive with other players far and away. We have seen movies geared towards small children go from innocent and moral to adult and raunchy at times.


So while I imagine mothers have always struggled to keep their children’s pure innocence intact, I feel like the struggle has only intensified in recent years. Now kids have computers, tv’s, and gaming counsels in their own rooms. Many kids begin carrying cell-phones under the age of ten.


What happened? I remember fighting with my mom just to get a radio in my room! Today I am finding the battle becoming stronger as I fight to keep my children’s innocence pure and protected while also allowing them to explore a small degree of this technology rage. On the one-hand, I know it is advantageous to teach my nearly six year old how to type, but I refuse to allow him to become a member of a social networking site. And although they know how to work a dvd player, I refuse to allow them to play on a gaming system. I struggle with the internet: monitored and highly secured, there are some awesome learning tools.


But what happened with simply playing with your toys?


We recently read a book together, my three boys and I, and they referenced a spinning top. My kids had no clue what that was, and it made me sad. There is something to be had in the simple innocence of plain childhood toys. They harken to a time when obesity wasn’t the norm, mass school shootings were non-existent, and offensive music would never be aired on the radio.


It doesn’t help that we live in a temperate climate; our seasons have extreme hot and cold. There are times when it’s too cold for the kids to be outdoors, and then there are times when it’s too bright to allow them unlimited access to the sunshine. But on those good days…on those beautiful days….


My kids love hiking through the woods. There is something magical in the croak of a frog early in the summer, or the sound of crickets in the woods beside you on a warm summer night. They love to watch the earth worms wiggle on the ground below them after a warm spring rain and blaze through the vibrant orange and red leaves on a crisp fall afternoon.


Some days, I manage to get it right. We turn off the tv. We pull out a stack of books. And we read just for the sake of getting excited about learning something new. And those days? Priceless.



About Jen Salowitz

I am a mama to 3 boys. I strive to live a greener, healthier live while preserving my children's innocence. I enjoy reading, learning more about natural birth and health-care, and playing the piano!



Comments (7)

my son will be four in june and my daughter is almost six months. we have a no-screen-time policy (no movies, no tv, no youtube). it's sad to see how often tv and movies are referenced in books, in public and at playgroups and such. the real question for me, though (as a stay-at-home freelance graphic designer) is how to address the issue of the computer. my son loves to look at photos, and watches over my shoulder often. and unfortunately recognizes the video icon on news or youtube links and begs to watch. (which i don't allow). but how and when and for what do you use the computer with your kids? it seems difficult to keep it out of their lives completely, especially since i use it for work and socializing.
My just turned three year old can get to backyardagains on Netflix on my iPhone all by himself and my one year old has a pretty good understanding of the device as well. Kai likes to play "the car game" -need for speed, on my xbox. I'd say he is amazing with technology, that said, he love to play pretend with his kitchen and cars and various other blocks puzzles and toys. Also, he Loves to play outside all the time, oh and he loves books. My point bring, I don't think I need to shield him from things like technology, just have a good balance and incorporate other things into play time. I am of the mind that if you exclude thing from your kids they will only want it more when they discover them- at school or their friends houses, etc etc.
I struggle with the technology issue. My kids are 3.5 and 1.5 years old. I allow my preschooler to play phonics games on the computer, listen to books on CD, and watch Thomas the Train DVDs while I am putting his baby sister down for a nap. Of course, he wants to continue doing those things after she is asleep and I let him. There is some balance between not forbidding "screen time" - since it is a huge part of our world - and not letting it dominate our lives. My goal is to act as a filter and allow my kids to watch/listen to/play certain things, but not for too long. It is hard even for adults to find the balance of using technology to help us, but not to take over our lives. I know that my kids are not capable of figuring out the judicious use of technology, so I need to do it for them.
Love, Love, Love this article!!!
Technology, it is infused into everything we do. I was just reading about Google starting to use gmotion, an interactive base to opening emails and I was excited to try it out. There is no idea or stone "upturned" these days. I truly find myself challenged in this respect. In my adult world, I must be part of the technology community. I work through the web, utilize gadgets to "simplfy" my work life as I balance my career from home with motherhood. In my land of mommy, I do my best, to remove these necessary tools from interupting the development of my toddler going on twelve. Strange how fast she learns and grows. I have to confess that before attending a Waldorf school parent-child class, I didn't realize how much technology robs children of imagination, play, movement and modeling skills. So we try to create a rythm in our house, times when mommy gets to use the tech world and times when the day is, to the best of our ability, focused entirely on tasks, play or just being together inside or out. I would highly reccommend to any parent, two books to guide them on their search and understanding for a better balance. "Beyond the rainbow bridge" by Barbara J. Patterson and Pamela Bradley; and the second book: "Simplicity Parenting" by Kim John Payne, M.D. In our journey, we most definitely do not have the answer, especially because every family's needs vary, but I think we all can do a little better for our kids. It really can be simple and we can protect their innoncence. At some point they will enter this adult world and take on technology faster than we ever did. At that point they will be ready; hopefully this won't happen when they are small and still learning the world is full of wonder, full of life and a magical place of love. I feel that too much technology destroys those gifts and it's our responsibility as their parents to hold that sacred space for them for as long as possible.
Very good points! Balance is always a struggle, as we are becoming more and more dependent on technology.
Excellent article. I, too, worry about exposure to all of these things, but at the same time my child being behind others who were exposed. I am really really against gaming systems in the house. Fine, play at a friend's, but not at home. Problem?? Daddy is a gamer.
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