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The New Bra

I have been pregnant and nursing for seven years in a row. Pregnant, nursing, pregnant, nursing, pregnant and nursing. I birthed three children in less than five years, and have nursed for over 63 months, not including the eight months of tandem nursing.

Part of how I keep myself feeling like a woman, not just a nursing mother, is by wearing inspired lingerieFor the past 20 months of nursing my third baby, I skipped the nursing bra phase entirely. I preferred a gorgeous plunge bra, two in black, one in beige; but, since it wasn’t a nursing bra, the months of pulling it aside and the natural wear and tear on the delicate fabric rendered all three thread bare and past the point of done.

Buying a new bra was on my list-to-do, but when I went to order online, I realized I didn’t even know my size anymore! It felt like a grand indulgence to take myself out, alone, shopping at a department store, but I left them all: my husband and three children who didn’t want me to leave, and I drove myself across town to Macy’s Department Store. I reveled in the silent drive and the mostly empty lingerie department on a Friday night.

The sales lady sized me, and waited on me with all the care in the world. I took my sweet time and tried on a plethera of choices. I left with the most fabulous Calvin Klein creation, one in black and one in white.

I feel like a new woman, strutting around in my fancy threads. Yes, my intimate apparell is buried under a shirt, an ergo and a baby, and, yes, she is pulling my new bra aside to nurse, but, I still feel fabulous.

Mommas, never under estimate the healing properties of a new bra!



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Jessica Williams

About Jessica Williams

Jessica Williams created L.O.V.E. Parenting with a series of techniques for effective communication, deepened connection and more joy in parenting and life. Jessica is also the creator of www.UltimateParentingCourse.com with the best of today's progressive parenting experts together in one program. Jessica is a featured expert internationally on both Mothering.com’s Ask An Expert and the upcoming www.KidsInTheHouse.com. Jessica is a regular contributor to Mothering Magazine’s All Things Mothering, LA Parent Magazine, LA Mom Magazine & DailyBuzzMoms. She has been interviewed on television and radio and taught workshops at family wellness centers, schools and doctor’s offices. Her BirthKit has helped women have a transformational & empowering birth. Jessica maintains a private coaching practice in her native Los Angeles where she lives with her husband and their three children. “Truly amazing woman. I love her advice.”—Carrie-Anne Moss. “All you have shared has helped tremendously.”—Lisa Bonet. “I am experiencing nothing short of a miracle thanks to your laser beam approach.” –Andrea Bendewald.

Comments (10)

I am on 8 1/2 years of nursing bras now, much to my surprise. My pre-mother self would not recognise me. Guess what I'm giving myself for Christmas .-= Ann McMahon´s last blog ..Rebel with a helluva Cause =-.
Similar to the author of this blog, I have been pregnant and nursing for 6 years in a row! When I began nursing my second child, I decided nursing mothers had to have better options than plain underclothes and overpriced (black, white or taupe) bras from Motherhood Maternity. I searched and searched and searched, and finally I found what I sought. Then I decided that other moms needed to get good fitting, pretty, cute, sexy (call them what you will) undergarments that supported them emotionally and physically throughout their pregnancies and breastfeeding experiences too! This experience birthed The Funky Mama, an online boutique dedicated exclusively to pregnant and breastfeeding moms who want a little "more" from their undergarments. Feel free to visit us at www.thefunkymama.com - we have a large selection of nursing bras (and lingerie) that will turn your partner's head in your direction!! AND we carry sizes 32A-42H!
Thanks for sharing Jessica... I've been saying for months, rather years, that I need new bras. I always choose function over form, but you've inspired me to go shopping - even if it will be unappreciated by my nursing toddler :P
I wish there were more "pretty" options available for nursing bras that were ALSO pretty/sexy! They are hard to find or often unaffordable for someone who's willing to invest in one (going to be nursing for awhile/having more babies). I've found some really pretty ones but they are top dollar - and I have three littles to provide for and would like more children in the future. I, too, have bought "normal" bras and just pulled them aside or up. It would be nice, though, to not have to ruin my bras! I wonder if maybe someone "out there" sells "conversion" kits - to convert your fav bras into nursing bras! That would be great! Maybe I should do it!
I work at a store that carries the largest selection of nursing bras in BC...and there are some seriously wonderful and sexy bras for nursing mamas! My son self weaned 5 months ago - and I'm still wearing some of my favorites. Check out Hot Milk. A company from down under that you will LOVE!!! The store is changing, and we now sell 'regular' bras as well. People come in and are amazed that the nursing bras are just as gorgeous as the 'regular' ones. But hey, when your body is not your own, you've GOT to get a fab bra to treat yourself!
I can totally agree, when I nursed or didn't, I still have the loveliest thing to go back to when I was ready to be reminded that I am a woman all of my own. Not just mom. Its funny how our array of bras represent us. Bras for everyday, relaxing, sports, nursing etc. :) what a great reminder of the multitude of things our lives have become/will become as women!
I agree - the one thing that kept me sane during my early days of nursing was sexy lingerie, and it still cheers me up. (I am still nursing my six month old.) Hot Milk is FABULOUS and I cannot recommend them more enthusiastically. Beautiful and functional!
http://www.evymama.ca/nursingbra.html There's even a fitting guide!
I am still wearing nursing bras and my daughter weaned herself almost 6 months ago. Your post has inspired me!! .-= Heather´s last blog ..TSA Harasses Breastfeeding Mom =-.
So glad!! Thanks, ladies, for all the comments. Week One of my new bras and still on cloud nine! --Jessica
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