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What Impairs Attachment, and Who Repairs Attachment?

What Impairs Attachment? A big pet peeve of mine is the label “attachment disorder.” This is a diagnosis given to kids who have typically experienced severe disruption in the natural order of what should have been the effortless, instinctual connection we’re designed to make from the very beginning. They were prepared at the level of their brains, their hormones and their entire sensing organism to connect, to be skin-to-skin with oxytocin flowing and weaving the powerful bonding foundations for healthy attachment. They expected to connect. Many... read more

Attachment Parenting Begins at Birth

Following on last week’s post about planning for a calm birth, and in honor of Attachment Parenting Month, I want to share some thoughts about the incredible and beautiful first hour after birth and its importance to the bonding between mother and baby. First, though, what do I mean by the term “attachment parenting”?  In The Attachment Parenting Book, Dr. William Sears defines “attachment parenting” as an approach rather than a set of rules: Above all, attachment parenting means opening your mind and heart to the individual needs of your baby and letting your knowledge... read more

What IS Attachment and How Do You Get It?

I write a lot about the central role of healthy attachment for child wellbeing. But what IS attachment and how do you get it?? It can be easy for someone like me who is steeped daily in the topic to take it for granted that people know what we mean when we say “attachment.” And as Gordon Neufeld points out*, attachment is not an intuitive word — in other words a word whose meaning is naturally and easily understood. Author of an excellent book on attachment, Hold On to Your Kids, Neufeld points out that the word attachment was invented as a way to have a... read more

Cosleeping and Breastfeeding: the perfect combination

By James J. McKenna Issue 114 September/October 2002 Mothers and infants sleeping side by side, also known as cosleeping, is the evolved context of human infant sleep development. Until very recent times, for all human beings, it constituted a prerequisite for infant survival; outside of the Western industrialized context, for the majority of contemporary people, it still does. Because the human infant's body continues to be adapted only to the mother's body, cosleeping with nighttime breastfeeding remains clinically significant and potentially lifesaving. This is... read more

Attachment Painting

 Images of Attachment Parenting in the Life of a Painting Mom all artwork © Durga Yael Bernhard – please do not reproduce ______   SCROLL DOWN FOR POSTER SALE! 2-for-1 special on attachment parenting posters & cards ______ A painting mom?  That’s not how I usually describe myself professionally.  My online presence is that of an illustrator, author, educator, and fine artist.  But the truth is, being a mom is my main occupation.  If you read Mothering when it was a printed magazine, you... read more

Preparing for Breastfeeding

Until the early part of this century, mothers didn’t give a thought as to how to feed their babies. All babies were breastfed, if not by the mother herself, then by a wet nurse: a lactating woman who breastfed the child for the mother. Then along came formula, which provided a viable feeding alternative for women and babies physically incapable of breastfeeding and for infants without a mother. Yet the availability of formula has created a complex dilemma for women all over the world. Experts today are unanimous in their support of breastfeeding as the hands-down... read more

To Wean or Not to Wean: Who Says When Is Enough

by Kelly Griffith Issue 97, November/December 1999 Breastmilk is by far the best nutrition for human babies. The reams of scientific data supporting that fact would impress even the most unenlightened skeptic. If a pharmaceutical company had made the stuff, everyone in America would know that it helps babies fight infection,1 hastens a mother’s postpartum recovery,2 and provides countless other benefits to both mom and baby.3 But when does all that good stuff end? Scientific research and the slowly changing attitudes of an often-traditional medical... read more

Young & Breastfeeding

By Aimee Campbell Aug 17, 2012 If you're a mom that breastfeeds you know how important the timing to said breastfeeding is. Before a trip to the store? Check. Before bed? Check. Before dinner? Check. Before breathing/eating/bathing? Check. Check. Check. So when I traveled out to the beach with my nine-month-old nursing machine in tow I anticipated a day full of sand and surf and snuggled up boobie time. This trip turned out to be more of an “extended family” sort of deal, and so included: Me, the baby, the sixteen year old cousin, the seventeen year old brother, the... read more

Attachment Parenting Month: Relax, Relate, Rejuvenate

October is Attachment Parenting Month and Mothering is once again teaming up with Attachment Parenting International (API) for some exciting events!  This year’s theme is Relax, Relate, Rejuvenate, and API has developed some great ways to bring this focus into your life. In addition to tips and resources, they are holding a blog carnival, an online auction, and a photo event–plus some great ways to connect with local moms. Find more information on AP Month below, and don’t forget to check out all of the helpful articles on Attachment Parenting on... read more

National Applebee's Nurse-In Sept 29th

A national nurse-in will take place on Sept 29th in response to the harassment of a breastfeeding mom at an Applebee’s in Convington, Georgia. On Sept 15th Dawn Holland was told by the manager at the Applebee’s that she must either nurse her child in the bathroom or leave. When she refused to move, stating her right to breastfeed in accordance with Georgia law, the police were called. The nurse-in is being organized by Mother’s Right to Choose and will take place at Applebee’s across the US at 1pm local time. This peaceful demonstration will attempt to raise awareness... read more

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