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Okay to Leave Kids in the Car While Popping into a Store?

I am thrilled to feature the following guest post by Lenore Skenazy, author of the book and blog, Free Range Kids.     The Latest Suburban Crime Wave One mother is hauled off to the police station. Another is clapped in handcuffs. The mothers' offenses? They let their kids wait in the car while they ran a quick errand. Yes, these moms did just what yours probably did back when you were a kid. That age-old practice has been criminalized in 19 states in recent years, thanks to a world that seems increasingly unable to distinguish between negligence and normal... read more

High Needs Mother

By Lynn Shattuck for Brain, Child: The Magazine for Thinking Mothers   After my first son Max was born, I wanted answers.   My little red-faced infant wanted to nurse every twenty minutes. He woke up six or more times a night. The ‘quiet alert’ phase that we had heard about—the one we had imagined our peaceful, silk-cheeked baby silently gazing at us while inhaling the landscape of our faces—was non-existent.   Long days dripped by in a haze of milk and tears—both of ours. Our pediatrician said it wasn’t colic; nursing soothed him. And Max didn’t save his sadness... read more

First Foods for Baby: Easy Homemade Solutions

  Whether you're starting baby on solids at six months or ten, introducing foods for the first time can be both exciting and stressful. Finding selections that are safe and healthy is a top priority--but with hundreds of colorful baby food jars, boxes and bags lining the shelves at the supermarket the choices can be overwhelming.    Given all of the options available today, you might be surprised to find that the most nutritious foods for your child aren't found in the infant aisle at all--they already exist in your very own kitchen. Choosing and preparing your... read more

How Adoption is Unique

As an adopted person, my birthday this week brings thoughts about my entry into this world, thoughts about some ways that adoption is unique.   Before getting my degree and writing Parenting for Peace, my previous body of work explored the psychological and social issues in adoption. Understanding how adoption is unique can help bring healing and wholeness to everyone involved.   "Out of Everydayness": One Way Adoption is Unique One of my favorite places is Hawaii, and I'm enchanted by the uniquely Hawaiian concepts of hanai and 'ohana. These have to do with family... read more

Why Do I Feel Guilty About My Naps?

By Tamara Reese for Brain, Child: The Magazine for Thinking Mothers   I went back to work when my firstborn was six weeks old and I felt like my heart was being ripped out of my body every minute of the day until I could race home to him.   Deciding to stay home was scary and I feel blessed our family was able to make financial sacrifices enabling me to make this choice. But once the band-aid was pulled, I found myself in a day-to-day rhythm that was completely foreign to me. In addition, I felt like I was a one-woman-show with a social stigma to refute. If I was... read more

The Man Who Is Not My Mother

  We give voice to more than sock puppets in my family. Our dog berates those around him like a furry muttering ogre. Birds perched on the back porch rail offer scathingly funny asides as they break open sunflower seeds. And baby Olivia expresses her displeasure in whimsical Shakespearean monologues. All channeled, of course, through the mouths of larger, more language-savvy humans. None of our speak-for-another silliness comes close to the perfectly droll wit of The Man Who Is Not My Mother.   This Tumblr site is inspired by four-month-old Adeline. Her father,... read more

Tandem Breastfeeding

By Christine Gilbert  for Brain, Child: The Magazine for Thinking Mothers   I have a secret. I’m still breastfeeding my three-year-old son, along with his three-month-old sister. They call it tandem breastfeeding, but they might as well call it shameful-secret-of-mommies-who-are-doing-it-wrong because that’s exactly what it feels like.   My husband and I have become adept at maneuvering around the major obstacles, hiding the fact from my Ob-Gyn while I was pregnant, since our first doctor said we had to stop immediately because our toddler was stealing nutrients from... read more

A Valentine for my Babies

By Olivia Hinebaugh Reblogged with permission from Lucy & Leo     I know. I know, little one. We’re a pair you and I. I love you. And you don’t have to say it; I know you love me too.   Being your mother isn’t always easy. Especially at first, when you’re so fragile, so perfectly miniature. Either content or screaming. Either sleeping or hungry. At first the love I had for you was primitive. I had no doubt I would throw myself in front of an attacking bear, I knew I couldn’t bear your cries, I knew you belonged in my arms. I loved you.   And you loved me... read more

On Sex and Cosleeping

From our wedding, by Owl Heart I got married back in November, after knowing my husband for 7 years.  He is my best friend, my soul partner, my rock, my clown, all of those good things.  And we often don’t sleep together. “Gasp!  What?!  You don’t sleep together?!  Doomed for sure…” I can imagine some people thinking. But I am writing to dispel the myth that cosleeping leads to a sexless relationship, as well as the notion that couples have to sleep in the same bed in order to have a happy sex life. A common sentiment expressed when the topic of cosleeping comes... read more

Insufficiency: Breastfeeding in Real-Life

(Photo credit Cheryl Spaulding Photography)   One Mother's Story of Breastfeeding With Insufficient Breast Tissue   I love natural birth and (of course) I teach birth classes.  This has truly been one of the best things in my life and has opened so many doors.  One of the greatest things however is that I have been able to meet and learn from so many families and women.     In one of my recent birth classes I had a couple come through that was eagerly planning and preparing for a wonderful home birth.   Alas, it did not turn out as planned.     Life can be... read more

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