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Gisele Pierced Her Baby's Ears- Why Are We Freaking Out?

    Today in my news feed I saw this article about how "mommy bloggers" were freaking out and attacking the famed beauty and new mom, Gisele Bundchen.     Well, I would probably be considered a "mommy blogger" and I have to say, a woman piercing the ears of her infant daughter doesn't freak me out even on a bad day.     I am sure there are those that would compare piercing ears to circumcision, but in my book the two have some very obvious differences and don't make much of a comparison as comparisons go.  (A circumcision removes something that was there... read more

What I Wish I Knew as a New Mom

                 With the birth of the royal baby all over the news and news of new babies in my own life every time I answer the phone, I have become nostalgic thinking back to those first early days as a new mama.  In honor of all the new mamas out there, I figured I would share a list of the top five things I wish I would have known back then.   1.  The baby will come in his or her time or and his or her own way.  It seems there are two camps surrounding birth in our culture: the type that just figures everything will happen as it should, and the type that... read more

7 Principles for Peaceful Parenting

In my 25 years of being a parent, a student of human development, a human in constant development, an impassioned researcher of the human sciences, and a parent coach engaged with the challenges and triumphs of real moms and dads, I have gathered a superabundance of excellent information. But I’ve also come to recognize that a great gift in this era of information overload is to arrive at the other side of a gazillion helpful facts to a few solid peaceful parenting principles. I wrote Parenting for Peace around seven such solid-gold nuggets -- principles informed by... read more

Why Are We Afraid to Admit the Difficulty of Attachment Parenting?

Last week I shared a short post here on Mothering Magazine about how attachment parenting can make you crazy.   I have actually posted many times on my personal blog about my difficulties, frustrations, and yes, love of attachment parenting.  How hard this type of parenting (or really ANY type of parenting) is for me is no secret.  I am a mom and sometimes I struggle. When I share these thoughts on my frustrations with AP the response is overwhelmingly positive.  There are many, many other mothers who struggle as I do.  There are other women who are sleep deprived... read more

What Impairs Attachment, and Who Repairs Attachment?

What Impairs Attachment? A big pet peeve of mine is the label “attachment disorder.” This is a diagnosis given to kids who have typically experienced severe disruption in the natural order of what should have been the effortless, instinctual connection we’re designed to make from the very beginning. They were prepared at the level of their brains, their hormones and their entire sensing organism to connect, to be skin-to-skin with oxytocin flowing and weaving the powerful bonding foundations for healthy attachment. They expected to connect. Many... read more

Attachment Parenting Begins at Birth

Following on last week’s post about planning for a calm birth, and in honor of Attachment Parenting Month, I want to share some thoughts about the incredible and beautiful first hour after birth and its importance to the bonding between mother and baby. First, though, what do I mean by the term “attachment parenting”?  In The Attachment Parenting Book, Dr. William Sears defines “attachment parenting” as an approach rather than a set of rules: Above all, attachment parenting means opening your mind and heart to the individual needs of your baby and letting your knowledge... read more

What IS Attachment and How Do You Get It?

I write a lot about the central role of healthy attachment for child wellbeing. But what IS attachment and how do you get it?? It can be easy for someone like me who is steeped daily in the topic to take it for granted that people know what we mean when we say “attachment.” And as Gordon Neufeld points out*, attachment is not an intuitive word — in other words a word whose meaning is naturally and easily understood. Author of an excellent book on attachment, Hold On to Your Kids, Neufeld points out that the word attachment was invented as a way to have a... read more

Attachment Painting

 Images of Attachment Parenting in the Life of a Painting Mom all artwork © Durga Yael Bernhard – please do not reproduce ______   SCROLL DOWN FOR POSTER SALE! 2-for-1 special on attachment parenting posters & cards ______ A painting mom?  That’s not how I usually describe myself professionally.  My online presence is that of an illustrator, author, educator, and fine artist.  But the truth is, being a mom is my main occupation.  If you read Mothering when it was a printed magazine, you... read more

Attachment Parenting Month: Relax, Relate, Rejuvenate

October is Attachment Parenting Month and Mothering is once again teaming up with Attachment Parenting International (API) for some exciting events!  This year’s theme is Relax, Relate, Rejuvenate, and API has developed some great ways to bring this focus into your life. In addition to tips and resources, they are holding a blog carnival, an online auction, and a photo event–plus some great ways to connect with local moms. Find more information on AP Month below, and don’t forget to check out all of the helpful articles on Attachment Parenting on... read more

From a baby's perspective

Having my first baby rocked my world.  Used to controlling my own life, my own mealtimes, shower times, working space and appointments, suddenly my life was turned upside down.  The question was not when I could shower, but if I could shower.  I no longer had the satisfaction of writing appointments in my diary, and being on time to them.  Nothing was predictable, and this in itself was a huge change.  I often look back and reflect on how hard I found it because my baby and I seemed to be working at cross purposes.  Why, I wondered, was she on a different team? We often... read more

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