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Pizza and Big Emotions

"But I wanted PIZZZZZZAAAAA!!!" he wailed across the restaurant filled with customers. "But you ordered tomato soup," I reminded him for the fifth time while gesturing to the soup and bread set in front of him. "It's here. We can't take it back." Despite my feeble attempts to reason with a three-year-old, he wasn't buying it. (What was I thinking anyway??) He cried. He flung his body down onto the booth. If I looked closely enough, I might have seen some gnashing of teeth. He was full-on, full-body, full-volume mourning the pizza that was meant to be his and the... read more

Where The Heart Is

      “When was the last time we headed out to do something this late?”   Kid-free, wild and crazy and living it up, we headed out for a night on the town. It had been awhile. It was also 5:30pm. And truthfully, it was pretty exciting.   I’m a homebody, an introvert. I love staying at home with my kids, it suits me. However, there is always the danger of slipping from homebody to hermit. It’s an easy line to cross. So sometimes I have to push myself to go out and do things I would kind of rather not, only because my couch isn’t there and I have to put... read more

The Glory in Being Mom

                  When you are praying desperately for a baby after years of trying, it can seem like every day is like walking through a land mine.  You never know when you are going to come face to face with a reminder of exactly what it is you are missing out on.   One such day occurred just under a month before I found out I was pregnant with my now five year old.  It was an anniversary of 9/11, and the college I was teaching at had a guest speaker come in who was a survivor of the 9/11 attacks.  I cancelled our regular class for that day and had my... read more

I'm Sorry; It's Not You

By Sheryl Paul Sometimes I think the five most important and responsible words we can say to our loved ones are, “I’m sorry; it’s not you.” In that moment, with those five words, we communicate to others that our bad mood, grumpiness, bitchiness, or whatever term we prefer to describe a closed heart is not someone else’s fault. We take full responsibility and, in doing so, open a space inside for something softer to enter. When we defend against what is, whether it’s sadness, irritability, anger, exhaustion, hunger, or disappointment, we erect a steel wall around... read more

Kids and Self-Esteem: I'm so over it

 By Suzanne Leigh   “Hey, Suzanne,” said the 7-year-old whose sibling had been invited to my daughter’s party and was accompanying his mom to pick her up.   “Got anything to eat? I’m hungry.”   “Well there’s the leftover pizza from the party. Want me to help you get a slice?"   “Nah.  Don’t like pepperoni. I wish you had the Hawaiian.”   I was about to forage in my refrigerator for something that might tantalize when I stopped myself: What was I doing catering to this child whom I barely knew, but was apparently comfortable enough to approach me... read more

Part 2, Interview with Deborah Markus, The Bitter Homeschooler

  In this episode, enjoy part 2 of our interview with Deborah Markus, author of the Bitter Homeschoolers Wish List.   (Listen to part 1 of this interview here.) Some links in this episode: The Bitter Homeschooler’s Wish List Secular Homeschooling Magazine The Bitter Homeschoolers Chocolate Cookbook     To see the full show notes, including a LOT MORE links to all the resources mentioned, please visit our website: The Savvy Homeschool Moms, episode 33.   To subscribe to or download our show, check us out on iTunes, or our website.     This episode is... read more

I Look To You To Know What To Do

My six-year-old son and I were having morning snuggle time when we began to discuss our day. "Yah," he said. "I'm gonna wear these same shorts another day. I pretty much wear the same things over and over...like Dad." "Oh, ya?" I asked with a smile. I had noticed that he had taken to wearing the same plaid shorts and red long sleeve t-shirt with the gecko on it for the past couple days. However, I had chosen not to say anything as a) he was happy, he LOVES geckos, and we weren't going anywhere that he needed to be clean or 'presentable', b) that meant less laundry for... read more

"Mommy Guilt" is a Misnomer

           "Mommy guilt" is something far more serious and harmful than guilt; let's stop calling it that.    By V.K. Harber   Mommy guilt is real and it’s everywhere. From what we feed our kids to how we diaper them to how much TV they watch to how much time we spend with them; there are a lot of ways to feel like we’re failing.   Just one problem: “mommy guilt” isn’t really guilt at all, but rather shame. And shame, unlike guilt which is a useful and sometimes appropriate emotion, shame is just harmful. Guilt is “I made a bad choice”, while shame is... read more

What Marketers Don't Understand About Motherhood

                  Dear Marketing Geniuses,   We don’t watch a lot of television in our house, but I guess the little that we do watch is geared towards women of a certain age because all of the commercials are targeted towards moms.     You paint such a lovely picture of motherhood.  The mom is always well-rested.  She’s usually quite attractive and dressed in something that very easily could have come off of the racks at J Crew.  She’s never sick of cleaning.  We can tell because she smiles wistfully at the shine her new cleaning product produces on... read more

For the Dads

I once asked my grandfather if he'd like to hold my baby.   He sputtered awkwardly, saying he didn't know how to hold a baby. That he'd never really done it. After raising four children.   From the kitchen I heard my grandma mutter something under her breath about how he never made the time to hold their children. That he never wanted to.   My dad, on the other hand is baby crazy.   Though he grew up with a more hands-off father, my dad has never passed up the chance to hold a child. He is different than his dad. More engaged. More present. More... read more

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