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Eighth Way for Dads to Change the World: Talk with your kids about race

By Jeremy Adam Smith One day I was sitting with four-year-old Liko watching teenagers play pick-up basketball in our neighborhood. “Daddy,” he said thoughtfully, “why do only black kids play basketball?” My heart skipped a beat and my stomach clenched with anxiety. I looked around the court: In fact, there was one red-headed white girl and one middle-aged white guy, which I pointed out to him, but otherwise, yes, all the other players were black kids. Liko has grown up in a city, riding public transportation and visiting all parts of the Bay Area, and he’s... read more

Circling back to Sesame Street

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When I was a little girl, the idea of going to see Sesame Street Live was a holy grail that never quite came together. Tonight, we brought the kids to see the 2009 version of Sesame Street Live. Luckily, the muppets do travel outside of urban areas with things like metal trash cans and stoops (I guess that’s why they call it a tour). They came to the Santa Ana Star Center, which is in Rio Rancho, a suburb northwest of Albuquerque. In true idiosyncratic New Mexico “if you build it, they will come” fashion, it is out there, a giant indoor stadium in the... read more

Seventh Way for Dads to Change the World: Give your child choices

By Jeremy Adam Smith I think you should know that conservatives think you're a terrible parent. I know that it might hurt to hear this. But just listen to what they have to say with an open mind, OK? Take talk-radio host Mike Gallagher. When he sees a kid pitch a fit in a restaurant and the parents (“well-heeled, well-dressed”) give in, there’s only one possible conclusion: the parents are liberals! Worse, they’re raising a liberal! Such permissiveness will set that child up for a lifetime of disappointment and misery. Children want to be taught to do the... read more

Guest Blogger Lisa Nave on Building Community, Literally.

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Over the past few years I’ve become keenly aware of the social fragmentation in our society. What began as a personal experience of feeling somewhat isolated as a parent trying to make my way quickly evolved into a full time examination of family, community and social structures in our society. As a psychotherapist in private practice, I also noticed that an increasingly high percentage of my clients were having similar struggles. In many families both parents had to work, which meant that they had little time left for grocery shopping and preparing... read more

5-Month-Old Will Only Sleep in My arms or in a Swing!

My 5 month old used to be a pretty good sleeper as a newborn until he hit 3 months old and then everything changed. Since then I have not been able to get into any sort of rhythm with his sleep. At this point, he will only sleep if I put him in a swing (must be swinging the whole time) or if I hold him while we sleep in a chair. He has had a problem with very bad eczema and used to try to scratch his face all night. But it's pretty well cleared up at this point. I'm at a complete loss as to what I should do now. I can just wait it out, but I'm worried that I'm... read more

Guest Blogger Cathy Cassani Adams on Self-Care as a Gift to Your Children

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You tell me that you will do anything for your children. As a parent coach I hear this all the time. I know you love your children. Your heart is in the right place and your intention is good. You want your children to grow up healthy and happy–we all do. My advice is always the same. Take care of yourself. Make yourself a priority. Instead of searching for the perfect words, demonstrate what it means to live a life of happiness and meaning. You want to give your children what you didn’t have, but you can’t give them what you don’t have. Take time for... read more

Guest Blogger Stacia Kelly Returns with Crystal Clear How-To

The Stillness Game: a script to help you relax your child down to sleep In a previous post, I discussed the art of creating a ‘stillness game’ with our young one to help him learn to relax down to sleep. While there are a plethora of CDs, books, and MP3s (I know, I’ve made one too) out there to help you, sometimes, it’s best for your child to hear your voice in helping them to relax down to sleep. I’ve found that the keys to relaxation with children are voice and music. There are a variety of methods out there from Transcendental Meditation... read more

Aggressive Two-Year-Old

Hi Judy, Firstly, I want to tell you that I LOVE your book. I refer to it all the time and I have recommended it to many other parents. I have been trying the advice from the book for this particular situation, however it is not improving and I am at a loss about what to do. My son Leo is 26 months old, very verbal and very bright. For the past 6 months he has been very aggressive with children who are smaller or younger than him. This aggression seems to increase when I am not giving him 100% of my attention. A couple of months ago we were at the park and I was speaking... read more

Getting Through a Terrible Preschool Year

Nathaniel’s last year in preschool was horrible. There’s no other way to say it. He’s in kindergarten now, and I had anxiety over the summer–would this be a horrible year, too? At the same time, I knew worrying wouldn’t help, and that “worry is using your imagination to create things you don’t want,” one of my favorite wise things Ashisha (Mothering’s editor-at-large and resident sage) told me. He loves kindergarten, and seems to have a new peace about not only school, but his place in the world. It wasn’t good for him to be one of the oldest kids in... read more

Pas de Deux

Pas de Deux: Creating a Parent-Toddler Dance Program By Heidi Anne PorterIssue 123, March/April 2004 I looked around the circle of squirming little bodies and expectant adults. They were seated on the floor, waiting patiently for me to quiet the butterflies in my stomach and start the class. My two year old leaned against me and whispered, “Let’s dance, Mommy.” I gulped, smiled bravely, and turned on the music. It was the first day of my very own dance program. After months of looking for a studio, creating activities, ... read more

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