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One Mistake Even Holistic Parents Make

Are you a holistic parent? Maybe you've been called crunchy or a granola mom. Maybe your extended family rolls their eyes when you pull out the gluten free, organic snacks. You roll your eyes when they give your child plastic toys from China. Maybe your discipline style is different from the styles of your friends and family. Do you find that people judge you harshly for your parenting choices? Do you judge other people harshly for theirs? I'm tired of the judgment that I see between different kinds of parents. If we want to be truly holistic, I think we need to... read more

Will YOU Like Your Adult Child?

If I've been a bit incommunicado lately it's because I was busy reaping some delicious fruits of parenting for peace: enjoying my adult children! Raucous midnight rounds of "Wise & Otherwise," updates on their interesting lives, great food & rich conversation around the dinner table -- holidays to savor!                                   A few days after we had that gorgeous portrait snapped in the forest wilderness where I live, my son Ian posted to Facebook a photo of him and his sister in matching yellow raincoats from oh, about 18 years earlier.   It reminded... read more

Bonding through Books

6 Realizations that Surprise me a Year after the Death of my Daughter

  By Suzanne Leigh   ·        1. That I think the Victorians might have had the right idea. Dressing in black mourning clothes, shunning celebrations and receiving visitors who came to pay homage to the deceased child was what was expected of bereaved mothers in the 19th century. At one time I’d have viewed these antiquated mores as rigid, inappropriate and punitive. After losing my daughter, they sound like a healthy way of being true to one’s grief and sharing it with the community in a somber manner congruent with our sadness. Author Jana Riess describes mourning... read more

Fathering in America

  Have you seen this picture in this blog post?  In short, it is a picture of a father wearing his 6 month old daughter in a carrier while fixing his older daughter's hair.  I just came across it today for the first time.  It immediately caught my heart because I love viewing babywearing pictures as much as others like viewing pictures of beautiful sunsets or gorgeous scenery.   The headline stated that it was “controversial” and stirred emotion in many people.  That seemed kind of weird to me because, after all, it’s just someone brushing a kid’s hair.  I do it... read more

The Playful Parenting Approach to Childhood Anxieties, Guest Post by Larry Cohen

  I am thrilled today to be hosting a guest post from one of my heros, Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, author of Playful Parenting. Today's article is adapted from his new book, The Opposite of Worry: The Playful Parenting Approach to Childhood Anxieties and Fears. Enjoy!   I needed an idea for my eighth-grade science experiment. My mother was the director of a nursery school, and every spring the children hatched chickens as a project. I cared for the eggs and the baby chicks on nights and weekends. My sister Jeanie was studying to be a psychologist at the time (I guess... read more

Mothering Beyond Baby-wearing (and Cloth Diapers and Breastfeeding and...)

There is a common phenomena among the crunchy in our midst.  It is the self labeling of parenting practices.     You've seen it, haven't you?   "I'm a cloth diapering, gentle parenting, long-term breastfeeding, baby-wearing, home-birthing natural mama!"   It's the tag line/self description on many a blog, e-mail, and profile.  Funny thing is, even though I have done all those things, I don't care for the label.  Much less a self imposed one.     Wondering why?  It isn't because I buck against all labels.  It is because those things are fleeting.    My... read more

3 Family-Tested Secrets to Not Getting Sick

I really hate the concept of "flu season" -- it sets us up to be ready to get sick, right?! But I also have a healthy respect ("healthy" -- see what I did there??) for statistics, and it is true that lots more folks get lots more colds and flu during the winter months. Here are three tried and true secrets for not getting sick -- tips that staved off many bouts of illness in our family  over many years. (My kids are now 22 and 26 and continue to use these with great results.)   I have been sharing these tips for not getting sick with friends for years, and finally... read more

My New Year's Resolution for 2014? Taking Care of MYSELF

  It's pretty common for moms to get so caught up in taking care of everyone else that their own basic needs get shoved aside.  All too often, if a to-do list item doesn't involve someone else, then it's reassigned to the endless list of things that will probably never get attention, along side the far less pressing projects like cleaning out the closet.  Particularly during the holidays, there is a tendency for us to be so overwhelmed with the tasks at hand that we find it difficult to fit in even simple, routine necessities for ourselves.   As I sit here... read more

Five Free, Festive Ways to Have Fun at Christmas

I don't just want my children to love the gifts they get at Christmas.  I want them to enjoy the spirit of the season, enjoy time with their family, and have some memories that last longer than opening a present.  Over the years there have been a few things that we have been able to do no matter how much money we have had or haven't had.  The memories of Christmas can last longer than the toys.     1.  Christmas Lights! Going through a cruise through little neighborhoods where people have their lights out.  This so fun and delights the children but only costs the... read more

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