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To My Son

  I forgot to tell you, I guess it slipped my mind, how my world tipped on its axis and I blinked and looked around with my breath caught and my eyes blurred and my heart opened wide the day I found out you were on your way.   Did you know I used to carry around the blurry back and white ultrasound photo in my wallet so I could take it out and trace my finger over the hills and valleys of your profile, the chord that connected our bodies. I was yours and you were mine.   Have I mentioned that I pushed and pushed and thought that I would never make it, that I... read more

Reflections on my Summer as a Work at Home Mom

Working from home is always an exercise in setting healthy boundaries, with and without also being a mom and a housewife.    There are definitely pros and cons to working from home with a six-year-old.  When I made the decision to have my daughter at home this summer, I had visions of her sitting quietly at the kitchen table practicing her handwriting and math skills while I counted the deposit or created pages for the JFM website.  I pictured her helping me in the kitchen and walking to the bank with me.  My reality was not the tranquil image I had planned, but... read more

Panicking about Preschool

                  My stomach is in knots, and I'm teetering on the edge of tears when I think about it.  Julie starts preschool tomorrow.  I know it's illogical.  I know that this will be really, really good for my girl, and I know that I need to make sure that I don't show any of my reservations to her.  I know all that.   But that's my baby, and I don't want her to go.   She's my last one, but that doesn't really matter.  I was just as misty when my older two started school.  It's more that she's just barely three and a half, and I'm not ready for her to be... read more

Dessert Before Dinner

                       By saying YES to ice cream before dinner, we can say YES to life, YES to joy, and YES to abundance!   Yesterday evening my children asked me to have ice cream at 6:00pm. The Oldest One's guitar teacher was on his way over and I was getting ready to fix dinner so that we could eat around 6:45 after his lesson was over. My first inclination was to say no. We can wait to have ice cream for dessert, after we had eaten our healthy food first. The boys stepped up their requests and added, "Please Mom! Just this once!" And it occurred to... read more

Ten Things You Will Totally Do When You Have Kids

            (Get ready to eat some humble pie. I like mine with whipped cream. Vegan, obviously.)   1.Talk about your kid incessantly Yes you will. To family. To friends. On Facebook. Oh so much on Facebook. But only because your kid is way more adorable and smarter and more advanced than those other babies whose every babble and meal and toothless grin were documented for the world. Obviously.   2. Catch vomit in your hands There is no reason for parents to develop this particular instinct. It does not make anything better. In fact, it makes it worse because now... read more

Lessons from Tots: The Importance of Joy

                After I dropped my oldest off at kindergarten today, I took my two little girls on a quick trip to the grocery store to buy a couple of last minute items.  As you can probably expect, there is really no such thing as a “quick trip” to the grocery store with an infant and a two year old.   I started pushing the cart with the baby, and Goosie, my two year old, was running ahead of me, squealing at each item we passed by.  Within the matter of about thirty seconds, she was filled with excitement over a Hallmark card, a coloring book, pineapples,... read more

Parents of Night Wakers Anonymous

  My name is Amy, and my three year old daughter does not sleep through the night. Not only that, but I [gasp!] still nurse her to sleep. Sometimes I feel like people with children who wake up at night should be meeting in a church basement somewhere, drinking coffee out of styrofoam cups with bags under our eyes, secretly confessing our frustrations about sleep deprivation. Instead, I’ve always been extremely open about my daughter’s night waking, because I want new parents to know that they're not alone, they're not doing anything "wrong," and I firmly... read more

Our Child's Education: Our Decision To Make, Not Yours

  My daughter will be starting school for the first time soon, for 5 full days a week. It is a huge transition for our little family unit, but especially for the two of us, as we have spent the last three years together. I know she will thrive there, as we did not take this decision lightly, and she is so social and loving that I have no hesitation that she will be able to adjust with ease. I am so excited for her, but I’m not going to lie, my heart will be very heavy to see her go. It will remain even heavier knowing that I should still be home with what... read more

8 Months After Losing My Child to Cancer: 5 things that help; 4 that don't

By Suzanne Leigh   What helps:   1. When I hear her name. My daughter’s name is Natasha; I love hearing people say her name; I wish they’d say it more often. I love seeing her name on her possessions, including (inexplicably) her medications that we continue to hoard. I even like seeing new spam sneak into her inbox, or junk mail addressed to her in our mailbox. Recently a former classmate recognized me at the pool where my younger daughter was taking classes. “Are you Natasha’s mother?” Those words made my soul sing. Her name: Thank you! Reference to me as... read more

Bored - Nothing to Do!

  By Sheryl Paul Everest and I have been reading a wonderful book we picked up at the library called, “Bored – Nothing to Do!” by Peter Spier. It’s a picture book about two adolescent brothers who, after being ordered by their mother to “Go do something! I was never bored at your age!” decide to build an airplane using materials that require them to completely dismantle their house. Everest, the consummate mess-maker and destruction artist, thinks the book is hysterically funny and laughs at every page. But I wonder if he’s also responding to the book’s subtext:... read more

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