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Forget the Mommy Wars: Finding and Sharing the Love Online

The online universe can be pretty daunting, particularly when it comes to mom on mom judgment. If you haven’t personally experienced it, then I’m sure you’ve seen it – the snarky, self-righteous comments, usually ending with a winking emoticon to try to offset the irritation level. Moms can be downright brutal to one another, and with the world at your fingertips to judge you, things can often go downhill fast in posts or comments. However, I think the positives outweigh the negatives. I have found there’s a lot of love out there too, and many kind women willing to... read more

Is Farm to School Enough? My 92 Cents

Do we want to simply feed kids better food at school or do we want to empower them to make better choices outside of school?  The best part of farm to school education is that you can start today!   I recently had the privilege of attending the Farm to School Summit in La Crosse, Wisconsin  with a great group of health educators, school food service workers and more from Transform Rock County.  I am really glad to have had the opportunity to see the exciting progress that folks in the La Crosse area have made with bringing fresh, local food into their school... read more

Homeschooling? Relax

        I’d like to tell you about homeschooling. About a unquenchable thirst for learning. About children who clamor to do extra math problems, write novels in their spare time and teach themselves Mandarin, just for the heck of it. I’d like to, but I can’t. Because I have no idea who those people are.    There’s this idea that homeschooled kids are some kind of special quirky weirdo geniuses. And maybe that’s true, sometimes. But for the most part, my kids are just kids. They squabble over toys. They ask me to buy Lucky Charms. They love cartoons. They... read more

Isn't age 11 old enough to be crossing the street alone?

  By Suzanne Leigh   Picking up my younger daughter from a summer camp, we passed a middle school camp where cars were double and triple parked. A familiar sight and one that has always surprised me. Here’s what happens: school or camp gets out at 3:30 p.m. and parents that miss a spot in the parking lot, patrol the area at 10 mph until they catch sight of their child dawdling down the street. Then they punch the hazard lights, exit their vehicle and wave their child into the backseat. These kids are ages 11 to 14.   As one who walked to and from school years... read more

Agreeing to Disagree: Gentle Parenting Despite Criticism from Loved Ones

                  I splashed my face with cold water, hoping to wash away the tears intermingled with anger. As I toweled off my cheeks with the fluffy hotel towel, my father’s words rang through my head, stinging me once more. “You might want to gather up all of your swim stuff before you leave. I'm going to get an earlier flight and leave tomorrow. These kids…my nerves just can’t take it. The screaming and crying morning, noon, and night... I mean…this generation is different. If I’d act that way growing up, my dad would have beat my ass. I can’t handle being... read more

Dance It Free: Using Movement to Connect with Your Kids

By Sheryl Paul The evening began as it usually does. After Asher, my three year old, goes to sleep, Everest and I spend some much needed alone time together. When I was young, my parents instituted a family ritual called “Time Alone” where we would each spend time alone with one of our parents after dinner: playing catch in the street, playing cards on the floor of my bedroom, going for a bike ride, cuddling on the bed talking about our day. They recognized the importance of kids connecting to parents privately and made efforts to ensure that this occurred each... read more

Pizza and Big Emotions

"But I wanted PIZZZZZZAAAAA!!!" he wailed across the restaurant filled with customers. "But you ordered tomato soup," I reminded him for the fifth time while gesturing to the soup and bread set in front of him. "It's here. We can't take it back." Despite my feeble attempts to reason with a three-year-old, he wasn't buying it. (What was I thinking anyway??) He cried. He flung his body down onto the booth. If I looked closely enough, I might have seen some gnashing of teeth. He was full-on, full-body, full-volume mourning the pizza that was meant to be his and the... read more

Where The Heart Is

      “When was the last time we headed out to do something this late?”   Kid-free, wild and crazy and living it up, we headed out for a night on the town. It had been awhile. It was also 5:30pm. And truthfully, it was pretty exciting.   I’m a homebody, an introvert. I love staying at home with my kids, it suits me. However, there is always the danger of slipping from homebody to hermit. It’s an easy line to cross. So sometimes I have to push myself to go out and do things I would kind of rather not, only because my couch isn’t there and I have to put... read more

The Glory in Being Mom

                  When you are praying desperately for a baby after years of trying, it can seem like every day is like walking through a land mine.  You never know when you are going to come face to face with a reminder of exactly what it is you are missing out on.   One such day occurred just under a month before I found out I was pregnant with my now five year old.  It was an anniversary of 9/11, and the college I was teaching at had a guest speaker come in who was a survivor of the 9/11 attacks.  I cancelled our regular class for that day and had my... read more

I'm Sorry; It's Not You

By Sheryl Paul Sometimes I think the five most important and responsible words we can say to our loved ones are, “I’m sorry; it’s not you.” In that moment, with those five words, we communicate to others that our bad mood, grumpiness, bitchiness, or whatever term we prefer to describe a closed heart is not someone else’s fault. We take full responsibility and, in doing so, open a space inside for something softer to enter. When we defend against what is, whether it’s sadness, irritability, anger, exhaustion, hunger, or disappointment, we erect a steel wall around... read more

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