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Originally Posted by Mylie
I have been reading the december thread for a couple weeks now...One of my helper moms recommended it to me..I am a single mom to two special needs teens and a four month old baby...I work fulltime but there is never enough money...Sigh...I just try to not let it get me down but you know how it is when you don't know which shut off notice is more important...Well I look forward to chatting with all of you...It is nice to be heard by others who understand...
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Originally Posted by eilonwy
my brain hurts.
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So last Friday, the washer started acting funny and wouldn't spin out. mike took the laundry that had been in the washer down to his parents' house to dry, and that's fine. He said that yesterday, he'd take dirty laundry to the laundromat (nevermind that he also said he'd check out the washer; Despite the fact that I'm the one more likely to be able to fix such a thing, I cannot crawl around in the basement when I'm damn near nine months pregnant) and just do a couple of megaloads. All right, no problem-- he'd go, take a kid (probably BooBah) and I'd be able to do some schoolwork with Bean.
He never got out of the house yesterday, but promised to do it today, so that I'd have the day to work with Bean. All right, no problem, we got up, laundry was all together waiting, and I didn't even log into the game or to mdc, I just quietly got everything ready in anticipation of mike leaving. . . but he didn't. Finally at *2:45* he says he's getting ready to go. Well, what is there to say to that? I'd just gotten done telling the kids to get dressed and go outside to play; Yeah, it's still wet and there's a bit of snow on the ground, but it's *sunny* and they need fresh air and heck, they've got jackets. He says, "I'm sensing that you would have liked for me to leave earlier." Well, DUH! I have to start dinner now, you know? There's no way we can get his schoolwork finished (or even properly begun) and I spent the entire day just waiting.
This is the thing about mike being unemployed that most bothers me. It's not that he doesn't help with the kids or the housework, he does do things around here. It's just that his very *presence* is inertial, and it makes it impossible for me to get things done with the kids because they'll run to him and he's soooooo bloody slow to get moving that even if he doesn't contradict me outright, his very presence nullifies any effect I may have. I've been trying to tell him since August that he needs to get out of the bloody house during the day. Just get OUT. I don't care what he does (although ideally he'll get a freaking job), just get OUT. I can't do anything, can't get the kids to cooperate when he's here all bloody day arguing with me and sitting on his butt in front of the computer. It's like living with an anvil that sucks all the heat and energy right out of me.
It's four now, and I'm feeling tired and demoralized, but I'll grab a bloody stepstool and wash a pot and make some pasta for the kids. And mike and the kids are *all* getting up before I go to my doctor's appointments tomorrow, whether they like it or not. If I have to be his mother too, so flippin' be it. He'll go on the schedule just like the kids.
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Girl, I know how you feel. I've decided tomorrow I will be on him like a MIL; he will be working on his hunny to do list or my angry goddess will be showing.... we'll see how that goes. Hope your hubby gets his butt moving soon, too.
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Originally Posted by Satori
Its worth a try, you can usually tell if its yeast becasue the edges usually have a pretty distinctive outline and ta da! picture! (warning, naked baby genitals!)
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/8/T081401.asp
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/8/t081400.asp is great for helping to identify what type of diaper rash.
as for me I should have stayed in bed, was up until almost 4am becasue of all the drunk idiots making noise and woke up at 9am to find out my cash aid is not on my card and praying its there tomorrow becasue the cars on empty and we have a Dr appt to go to and the rent is due and I can't afford a $45 late fee. Then I sprained my wrist, how I don't know but it hurts and thanks to older dd I slipped and fell on it and now it REALLY FRIGGIN HURTS! Once again my guardian angel must be around becasue when I came back to the computer to sit down and massage it there was my wrist brace I've been looking for all morning (I've messed it up before but not since we moved here, no clue how it got to my desk becasue I haven't seen it since before we moved.)
as for something positive I made an awesome deal! I manged to barter for services for a professional organizer to help me finish unpacking and organize the house so I'm thrilled!
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I am so sorry your wrist hurts; sending you healing
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Originally Posted by MamaChel
I'm checking in, been lurking for months. We're very low income and high debt. That's going to screw us even more, effective almost immediately.
We got a "Christmas present" from my parents, who we live with. We have until Feb 1 to find other living arrangements. Great. If DH was *working*, we'd be ok. BUT, he fell off a roof in October, nearly DIED, and still requires nursing care twice per day with 3x/week OT/PT, constant labwork, visits with 5 seperate specialists, blood thinners, IV abx (due to the splenic abscess that is STILL draining out his side), and has started having bouts of extreme dizziness that could either be related to the brain injury or some of his medication. I get SSD and go to school FT (4 months until graduation, yay). Between us we have about 100k in student loan debt and our annual income is about 20k for a family of 7. Fun times. We can't get FS until we move b/c mom uses our income to qualify for her medicaid somehow.
But, things I am grateful for:
DH walked away from a C1 fracture. He's alive and reasonably well,
Free top notch medical care for his injuries
My three little yahoos and their huge imaginations
The many "santas" who have helped my family this holiday with everything from groceries to toys and shoes for the kids.
One more semester until graduation.
FINALLY having the truth about my parents validated.
Somehow we will manage, that's one thing I've learned. We always manage.
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I am so sorry to hear about your family being booted out. I hope you find a good new place and that the process goes as smoothly and as well as possible. I am so sorry to hear about your hubby, too, sending him some healing
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Originally Posted by justmama
Thanks! I actually just got home and I made $51. Funny how that works. I needed $50 and I was blessed with an extra dollar. It was actually a good day tip-wise and table-wise.
BUT . . . . . . . . .there's always a but isn't there????? I've been having all this random cramping and I think I'm looking my plug.
Hmmmmmm. I'm 33.3 weeks along. I think we need big bird in a while longer to bake. BUT there's no cervical changes so far. Just crampiness like a period, I've been in the bathroom ALL.DAY.LONG, and there's a LOT of mucus when I wipe. Now that I've totally TMI'ed everyone out. . . . . . .I think it's just a bit early. And I'm nervous because by this time my water had already broken with Sara and I was in the hospital on antibiotics and steroid shots and she was born at 34.1weeks. So it just makes me a little freaked out. I can't afford to go on maternity leave early as I haven't even looked into disability or filled out paperwork and I have no money for next month's bills.
I'm a little panicked.
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Stay in where its warm, baby vibes for you!!
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Originally Posted by 2Sweeties1Angel
What I'm Thankful For:
--DH still has a job! He called his boss today to see why he wasn't on the schedule, blah blah blah, told her he'd filed for unemployment, and she put him on there for Friday, Sunday, and Monday.
--DH and I both start school on the 14th. We're excited. I already have an AA in Criminal Justice (WTF was I thinking???) but am going back for my ADN. This is DH's first time in college.
--I got double pay today at work since it's a holiday. My check should be nice, even with insurance taken out.
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Saffron started walking last night
She's about 11.5 months old or so and I'd been hoping she'd wait until after a year. She's my latest walker--the others walked at 10 months and 8.5 months. Oh well, at least she didn't start walking any earlier. I hate it when they walk because that leads to running and that leads to me having to chase them
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Those sound like all good things, mama
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Originally Posted by averysmomma05
YAY! I went this morning filled out a application for a job at gas station. They hired me before I even got the application. I go in the morning at 8am to do my drug test and then I can start as soon as I want. YAY! Well thats all for me right now! Emily
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Awesome!! Way to go on the new job. That's great!
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Originally Posted by Brojakee
Thanks for the warm welcome! I don't understand the multi quote thing, or even single quote thing, can someone explain
Just a bit of comical news:
Ex husbands new girlfriend(the one who brought herself to my door and told my kids she is their new mommy
) busted a implant...she is hence forth known as UNI
I am a true believer in karma right now
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that is too funny.
If you want to multi quote there is a little button on the lower right of each person's post with the quote marks. You click that on everyone's posts you want to quote, then when you hit post reply, they all show up and you can add your comments.
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I just woke up a lil while ago, sometimes I get online for a bit when its quiet here in the night. I should go back to sleep soon.
Today the kids and I played outside and took a little walk even though it was super windy, they needed to get out for awhile. They played with these crayola chalk stompers they got for christmas; these things are like big poofs that you push on the ground and leave chalk marks. They wound up marking our tree all over. It was nice, but wore even me out so the kids and I then watched a movie and took a nap together.
As I was making dinner I realized how much I need to declutter and organize this house. I am going to have dh help me tomorrow with some of that. I am excited and determined.
All of my local friends have been too busy and not around for awhile, and I haven't been around much either, but I just hope that everyone is not avoiding me or something. My kids miss their friends and I hope we see some soon. My son will be 5 in 10 days. He wants to have a boys sleep over pizza party. I still have to invite my friends kids, though I mentioned it last month to a few moms. We will hopefully have at least 2 other boys over... I hope their moms let them over for the night. Most of his friends are a little older than him. Anyway, I plan on playing a bunch of games, letting them make their own pizzas or dessert pizzas, running themselves out, then maybe watching a movie and bed. So I guess I have some preparing to do for that.
I need to call some other massage students and set up a study date. That is a very hard task, since many of us have tried to get our group together, and failed. I need some studying support, though! And I know they do too.
Anyway, have a great day ladies, that's it for now, I'm sleepy.