Originally Posted by zeldamomma
...Now she's almost 9, and if I see her having trouble with something, I will ask her if she wants help, or make a make an observation like "when I do ___, I find that ___ sometimes makes it easier." But I don't jump in and help, unless she wants help, even if I can see she's doing it wrong. Given the opportunity, she generally figures things out or asks for help eventually.
Another thought-- could you help her...