Posts by Smithie

My father and his sisters were adopted by kin, out of a sense of obligation.   Much as I have loved being raised in my extended biofamily, my dad and aunts would have been better off in another placement. If your instincts are...

I am fairly sure that my son's Other Mother (seems stupid to call her a birthmother since she parented him for about 5 years total) is going to try to parent again. I don't know how my son will react. Right now, he doesn't want much...

rs11 - do not say ONE DAMN WORD to your foster worker until you have brought home your privately adopted infant and the birthmother has signed all the paperwork AND your lawyer is telling you that the birthfather is a nonentity. Just...

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I have become very pro-touching as long as the child is comfortable. I grew up in the Northeast, but now live in the South and spend a lot of time with African-American children these days (my kids attend a majority-minority school)....

You might get a more charitable response if you didn't choose a term like "callous" to describe people whose emotional landscape differs from your own. I find your choice of words offensive and disrespectful. I paid you the compliment...

It would be difficult to kill an animal if one was empathizing with the fear and pain the animal was feeling.   I really think it would benefit you to learn more about how farmers raise and harvest meat (not a euphemism,...

My son's "other mother" has signed a directed placement on his younger half-siblings. They are going to be raised by our friends. We will see them and know them and be part of their lives as they grow up. 

Fair enough, pek. I think callousness is very nearly the OPPOSITE of the emotional state required to responsibly harvest meat for food, but that's just my opinion. 

pek64, do you enjoy it when people accuse you of being hypersensitive or hysterical or otherwise emotionally dysfunctional because you do not eat meat? Well, that's how I feel about being called callous, or having my farmers called...