You're meeting your daughter's needs and respecting others' things. That is not selfish. I'm sure these people who didn't have the nerve to ask to play with your baby or criticise you to your face are the same ones who would throw a fit about your "bad parenting" if your daughter touched one of their precious breakables. You can't win with some people, so the heck with 'em. Just keep listening to your baby and giving her what she needs.