I can kinda relate, I think. After my birth trauma I spent a long time fixated on this idea that if my dh would just get it everything would be all better. He came with me to therapy and finally kinda did, but other than getting us out of the cycle of me looking for validation and getting hurt again ad nauseum it didn't really help like I thought it would. I was just struck by the similarities to your post and thought I'd share. Good luck.
10/18/10 at 8:49pm