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This is information from Ellyn Satter, an RD who is well known for her idea of the Division of Responsibility in eating and removing power struggles from the table. Both of the blog posts here have a lot of information you might consider. http://mealtimehostage.com/tag/ellyn-satter/ One thing is that the idea of a timer is for you - to keep you from getting to exasperated. The other is that it is okay to take your time at the table.
There are some stats concerning frequency/rarity here: http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/mm6245a4.htm
Peeing outside in well populated areas can really overburden shared spaces. When I used to live, the local playgrounds reeked of that smell. One day I was sitting on the curb that separated the playground from the grass. I heard a familiar whizzing sound and turned my head - to see the toddler next to me, unzipped, aiming the stream about an inch from my hand. Our family rule was that you could pee outdoors when you were in the country, and there was plenty of space and...
At one preschool, tears and fear. At another, super warm teachers, warm, well-planned environment and happy to run in every day. Same parents, same child. First grade at one school, tears and fear. At another, super warm teachers, warm, well-planned environment and happy to run in every day. Same parents, same child. For a child who is sensitive to whether there is chaos, whether there is warmth, whether there is security, for that child it has been worth it to look for...
To be honest, I can't really remember the last time we had a conversation like that. Maybe it's because bedtime and dinner aren't very far apart for us. As time goes on and bedtimes get later, things might change.  I know in younger years we had conversations that were answered by "There is no food after dinner, but we'll have breakfast right after you wake up."  But you know,  we did used to have bottle of milk at bedtimes as a sleep cue. So I guess my rule was just a...
I can't remember if Satter says anything about it. We decided that nothing would be on offer after dinner, partly because I saw the awful nightly struggles that a relative and her kids had over their "night night treat." Bedtime at their house was always associated with screaming tantrums, and part of the fuss involved these tense negotiations over what the night night treat would be and whether you could lose it for rotten behavior. I think they might have adopted...
I just wanted to add something about different parts of the tongue and different tastes. I was taught that, too, but it never made much sense to me. It turns out that it's a myth that arose when someone did a bad job translating a scientific paper written in German. http://www.livescience.com/7113-tongue-map-tasteless-myth-debunked.html http://www.nytimes.com/2008/11/11/health/11real.html?_r=2& http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tongue_map
So many different approaches! I can only tell you what seems to be working for us. Before we became parents, I would cringe when certain families came to stay with us. Mealtimes were a pitched battle - "Eat one more bite!" "No!" "I don't like it!" "I don't want it!" I knew more than anything that I didn't want our family to look like that, not at home and not with other people. Fortunately, the leader of the hospital's parenting support group introduced us to the work of...
Oh, I remember this. It is awful. And it is tiresome when everyone around you seems so mystified/filled with judgment. Everybody prefers the carefree mom who makes it look effortless, but oh well. Nuts to them.  I tried not to go anywhere in the car and if we had to, I tried to take surface streets rather than highways to make pulling over easy.  As another poster said, it gets better as they get older. Please - don't take any advice from people who haven't experienced...
Hi there,   There's a popular series of books out there - your one year old, your two year old, etc. that tends to be pretty spot on about things. The advice they had for five year olds is that when your child acts like this when beginning K, especially if they are on the young side, then let them stay home another year Now, obviously, this is not K, but she is still five -  younger than most of her classmates.   If I were you, I would talk to the principal, NOT...
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