with my first, i had a baby shower and a mother blessing. it was awesome. my mom and sister did the baby shower for all of my extended family and hometown friends. then all of my close girlfriends gave me a mother blessing. they were both great. i got things like a pack-n-play, clothes, cloth diapers etc. at the shower and did a birthing necklace, belly cast and shared birth stories at the mama blessing. they were both equally awesome and everyoone wasw happy. have fun!!