Totally agree. Been there done that. Don't want to pass any "failure" messages on to my child. I like what MeepyCat said about focusing on the child when retelling their birth story, making it a story about them rather than you.
I wouldn't feel comfortable telling a young child that a doctor cut my stomach open. That could cause an unnecessary fear of doctors at that age. My son has noticed my scar before and I told him that it is a very special opening that was unzipped so he could get out of my tummy. Doctors know how to zip it back up so it won't open again without their help. (I said that after he asked me to open it.) He was satisfied with that answer.
I have a 27 month old son. We are AP, and will be enrolling DS in a Montessori school when he turns 3. We live about 35 miles southwest of Raleigh.
There is a Waldorf school in Chapel Hill that has a weekly parent/child class for children under the age of 3: http://www.emersonwaldorf.org/early-childhood/parentchild-program/
They are holding a free introduction class on Monday, November 5, 2012 1-2pm.
Also, explore meetup.com to look for area playgroups...
Central Carolina OB/GYN in Greensboro has five CNMs on staff, and they deliver twins. I even know someone who delivered twins naturally in a birthing room (not the O.R.) with them. Many practices insist on an O.R. location and an epidural for a twin birth (ready to be increased in case of c-section), but Central Carolina OB/GYN allowed my friend to birth without both--and she did great. I highly recommend them to you: http://www.ccobgyn.com/ Vicki Latham (CNM) and...
I won't dissuade you from exploring the homebirth route (Nancy has supported many VBACs), but I also wanted to contribute another hospital-based provider option other than the one you have found, in case you'd like another option. UNC Family Practice (not OB/GYN) is one that VBAC-hopeful mamas travel far to get to, because UNC has the most successful VBAC rate of any hospital in the entire state (both in actual numbers and in percentages of total births). The Family...
Meanwhile, CNM's ARE recognized by the state of N.C., and it is perfectly legal to have a homebirth with a CNM attending.
I refused eye ointment for my child and the hospital honored my request--so I don't agree that it is a "N.C. legal requirement." My child was born via c-section, and my water had not broken, so there was no way he could have been exposed to GC or Chlamydia (even if I had it). Use evidenced-based medicine, People--not assembly-line based.
Hi, DH is sure he only wants one--and I am not sure, but at age 41 a #2 is looking unlikely. (I grew up in a large family, and I can only think of how lonely DS will be.) So, I've come here to learn from you wise women about raising a non-lonely only. Honestly, I am not happy about this idea, but am trying hard to grow into it. Thanks for showing me the way!