There is an absolutely amazing website started by a mom who adopted two Ethiopian daughters, one has afro-textured hair and one has really curly spirals. She gives a ton of great advice and is very inspirational, www.happygirlhair.com, check it out!
When I gave birth to my son, it was just another day. I chose to UC without hearing about it from others, doing research, or having a bad assisted experience. It was just what I wanted. Becoming a mother has definitely changed me but not the birthing experience itself.