I also had severe pre-e and that was the reason for my c-section (hoping for a vbac next time). I wouldn't think the membrane sweep would really hurt anything but I know for many women if your body isn't ready, it probably won't do anything. Good luck with everything!
Hello and welcome! I'm in WV too..not terribly far from you up in Wheeling. I think Morgantown is about 60 miles away. I don't have any experience with dr's or midwives in that area but I have friends who do and I know there are lots of great options. Oh and if you're interested in breastfeeding I know there is a LLL group there.
My dd likes straws that are bigger because they have a faster flow. Since you mentioned that she nurses I wouldn't worry too much. If she gets too thirsty she can nurse more frequently. My dd is 20 months and doesn't always drink a lot of water but does gulp down the breast milk! After all, it is a great thirst quencher
Sounds like he's doing fine. Their growth slows way down after 12 months. My dd is 20 months and maybe 19lbs at the most. As long as he's active and alert and meeting milestones then it sounds like he's doing great!