The county I grew up in was without power for almost 2 weeks. Staff brought in from other states to help remove fallen trees and restore power were greeted and appreciated.
I'm not sure what the point is of trying to scare away a worker who has already committed to doing the job. Casting a negative stereotype about the state of New Jersey and how its residents respond to aid workers is not helpful to anyone.
At that age, I would say definitely try a sippy cup. It might be novel enough for her to take it. If she doesn't, then just keep trying to nurse at home and have Dad make the lunches while DD adapts to the new routine. Best wishes!
Poor thing! My son fell down on the playground and had to go to the nurse's office for a bandaid when he was in kindergarten. He was hurt and crying, but made sure to tell the nurse "No shots! I'm not allowed to get any shots!" LOL, I gave him the lesson but must have oversold it! Of course, he had a bad reaction to the only shot he remembers getting, so he is terrified of them on his own.
Have you talked to her pediatrician about this behavior? Have you tried any elimination diets? I know that in some children, things like dairy, gluten, sugar, and/or food coloring can make a big difference in behavior.
I agree with the others - I would keep my child home that day as well.
In addition to what everyone else has said, there can be a lot of peer pressure too. Kids could make fun of a child for not getting the shot, and 11 and 9 are certainly prime ages for bending to peer pressure, especially when all the teachers and nurses are around them saying that it's safe and doesn't hurt.
The article stated "The possibility of protecting young infants against pertussis by immunizing their mothers during pregnancy was investigated in the 1930s and 1940s; no further studies have been published since. "
WOW! That's unbelievable. Many mothers in the 30s and 40s would have had antibodies anyway due to having had pertussis or having been exposed to it. And those studies used a version of the vaccine that is no longer used.