Posts by <3mymom

Thanks so much. I will look into the book definitely, but I have also had years and years of counseling that has taught me a lot of skills to be able to respond in ways that affirm feelings without making myself responsible for fixing...

Well in short the title says it all, but I suppose a longer explanation really is necessary. My parents are divorcing and really I am just fine with that. They fought quite a bit when I was growing up so I always expected this and I...

Another former self-harmer here. I will mostly echo what a lot of other people here have said. For me cutting myself was a way of dealing with emotions i couldn't handle, and to feel in control of my own body. I started when I was 12,...

Speaking as a currently quitting smoker but not a parent yet: Personally if I was smoking anywhere near your child, I would expect you to tell me to cut it out. Honestly if I was dense enough to light up anywhere near a non-smoker and...

Thanks, I will support her in doing that if she is willing. I agree with you that it isn't my business to interfere. I've only said anything to them when they have brought it up with me or asked my opinion and my sister is out of...

Quote: Originally Posted by aussiemum Good point EFmom, some of this kind of depends on where the OPs sister sees herself in 6-12 months with regards to parent support, etc. I also agree with pps who think that the...

Quote: Originally Posted by EFmom I was sort of in the same position as your sister at that age. Extremely religious parents who were pretty controlling and who found out I was sexually active. It wasn't fun. I...

Quote: Originally Posted by weliveintheforest I think your sister should just give your parents some time to get over it. I doubt moving out would be a good option at this time in her life. How long has it been since...

Ah yes that is exactly how I survived the highschool years, exactly that way. She has a stubborn streak a mile wide though and will NOT NOT NOT do that. I wish she would sometimes, it would make my life 100x easier but I understand her...

eclipse: Oh of course, I pointed that out to them long before this ever happened. "You know mom and dad if you act judgmental when she comes to you about sex/sexuality she's never going to talk to you about ANYTHING like that...