Posts by ExOfficia

I can't count how many times I've said this since he told me he was leaving back in November, but this has been the worst day of my life. I have been in a bad, bad place the last few days (see my post below). Today I woke up, the sun...

He moved out just over a month ago, even though he told me back in November that he was leaving me for another woman. Typical boring midlife crisis stuff. Living with him was hell, but I felt backed into it because of the kids and...

I'm really, really glad to see you are being proactive. Can you squirrel away some money (cash, not a checking account) somewhere safe? Just because you can never tell exactly when you might have to leave, and it is good to have...

Your children will really benefit from seeing their mother do the right thing, as hard as it may be. They may not understand totally now, but one day, they will.

My stbx moved out a month ago, and I can honestly say what others have said, it really does get better. And faster than you think. I think it's really helpful, as far as helping a child cope, to maintain as many of her old routines...

I'm sorta there with you, so I'm not sure how much advice I can give. My stbx and I split up back in November, but he only moved out a couple of weeks ago because of money and business travel issues. He also had an affair (and is still...

Flowmom... Fwiw I'm right there with you tonight. My stbx has the kids over tonight for their first sleepover. I'm at a total loss, as if I don't know what to do with myself. I know exactly how you feel. I'm glad you will be...

stitchinmama, I could have written your post in so many ways... My stbx announced to me at the end of Nov that he is leaving me for another woman. There is also a history infidelity with us- everything from online affairs to a...

Welcome! Your post sounds so joyous and free. The date my stbx moves out keeps getting pushed ahead...I hope that in a few weeks time I'll be writing such a happy sounding post too. I'm very excited for you!

My lawyer and I have just started drafting the bones of a separation agreement. She agrees with me that we need to nail all his good intentions down a.s.a.p. in writing, particularly the financial issues. I don't think (at this...