My 2nd went through a phase like this. It lasted two months. Then I couldn't put him down again to save my life. I say if you're lucky enough to have a kid that will do that go with it. It does happen.
Sounds normal. Probably a bit high needs. Then again it's not a bit of a stretch to say that most babies are like that In the very beginning. Don't worry it should get a little better pretty soon And things won't be quite this intense. Every baby I've ever had or known was kind of like this.
Afterpains, yes, that sucked. Ibuprofen worked well, but for some reason made me sick, so I had to take acetaminophen which didn't work as well. Lasted about three days.
Swelling/other issues: peri bottle was my best friend for awhile. Used a lot of tucks pads as I recall. Dermaplast is nice for about the first week or so. Sitz baths were heavenly.
Took a long time for the above to go away completely, didn't feel quite right for about a month or so.
I basically have the same problem as you. My baby apparently fusses and cries whenever he's with someone other than me. I think some kids are just more sensitive that way--unfortunately there's not really a whole lot you can do about it, but eventually they do grow a little less mamacentric. Bad news--it won't be for awhile...
Since you can't wait it out, make sure you find a caregiver who has the patience to deal with the crying and has some good comforting...
Most daycare providers that work with babies are used to dealing with stuff like this. Definitely have a conversation about it with the people who will be caring for your child, and see what solutions they prefer (and whether that fits in with what you want for your child).
For what it's worth, babies sometimes will behave in very different ways for strangers than they do for mama. Trust me on that.
I wish you could just RENT baby/toddler shoes, instead of buying them. Seriously, they wear a size for like a month or two, then, whaddya know, it's back to the store for yet another pair of shoes that will fit for like a minute. Oh joy...
Seriously, if anyone needs a business idea, there ya go.