There is a great book called "101 Answers to Aspergers".  It gives great perspective from both the child and the parent.  I carried it for months after my stepson was diagnosed.   I have been a part of his life since 2002 and every day is another struggle with him.  In addition, I am only stepmomma, so that just makes it 10x harder.   Good luck.  If you have any questions, I will be happy to reply.   Kendra