Posts by mary934

Stickers - I am not one for stickers , but if you use them , make it very, very, easy to get so there is momentum and don't take away stickers or points when the kid behaves inappropriately    Unconditional Parenting - in...

The problem with rewards is they do sometimes work in the short term. When it kid learns that it pays to be nice, you are teaching him to ask what's in it for me and not what kind of person I want to be - I am kind  etc - because...

An approach to parenting will usually depend on how we view kid's behavior and whether our goal is to promote intrinsic motivation , helping kids motivate themselves rather than using control - consequences or...

Children do well if they can , they are not choosing , kids would prefer to be successful and adaptive , so he is already motivated and trying hard. Rewards and consequences focus on motivation and not even intrinsic motivation. They...

failure is not in the falling but not getting up and here you are busy with that process. You were dealing with a safety issue so where you are at , I would not beat myself over the head.   In the moment it is very difficult...

I don't have inspiration for you but maybe some new lenzes   - the cps - collaborative problem solving approach's mantra is ' children do well if they can and not if they want to ' -  so they are doing the best they can...

Not all kids calm down when you touch and hold them, for some they get even more angry. I undertand that we can help kids deal with strong emotions and feelings by validating them, but I would suggest that parents give kids the skills...

I don't believe anybody can deliberately throw a tantrum if they don't have intense feelings of frustration. Using CPS - collaborative problem solving theory kids look bad when the demands placed apon them by certain situations...

puberty adds to the 'mix' , but there is very little we can do. I suggest doing some Plan B - collaborative problem solving- cps , Ross Greene's approach to helping challenging kids acquire lagging skills by solving problems in a...

Not easy. The hitting is a behavior , a symptom. We really have to get an understanding of the conditions - the more detail the better - under which he displays hitting. he does not hit all the time. We are need to get your ds input -...