Posts by mary934

While SDT acknowledges the powerful effects of extrinsic motivators to get people to do or avoid things as seen on the link I shared - the motivation continuum ,  the SDT challenge to behaviorism is the effects of extrinsic...

Another option is to educate teachers and schools about the negative effects of homework - see Alfie Kohn's - the homework myth    some parents focus on preparing kids for  tests and do the kids homework and that...

SDT is a  non-behaviorist theory of human motivation and behavior dealing with especially intrinsic motivation and autononmy= self determination. People are self determined when their 3 basic needs of autononmy= being connected to...

PET was very much a lone voice recommending a working with approach. AK quotes Thomas Gordon - limits are important but what is more importasnt is how they are set , together or unilaterally  I liked the " I" statements of...

Education is a process , things take time. We could cps the problem of distractions -  possible solutions  doing homework with friends , being proactive in having friends over or going to them in our daily schedule 

Interesting that you mention TCS folks. I found that when they discuss issues amongst themselves , they are more balanced but when in the company of UP or GD parents they take kid's autononmy to an extreme. Alfie Kohn discusses this...

I suggested talking about why he does not want to talk about it , not about his concerns over homework itself. Sometimes it helps to actually set up a time in advance . I am not a fan of homework but maybe if his teacher sees it as a...

Maybe -  I have noticed that you are not so happy about homework what's up ?   if the kid thinks we are actually in Plan A under the guise of Plan B - he will need reassurance - so after the '  I don't want to talk...

For me UP is more of the why -  there is still a lot of how -  and Ross Greene's collaborative problem solving is the HOW of UP. Parents who have difficulty with the HOW of UP or have challenging kids should become competent...

It is important to read the latest editions of Ross Greene's books and keep up with his web site and radio programs - you can ask questions there too.   In the moment - very difficult to do cps , all we can do is let go or use...